Leemarley, I hope all is going okay with the people you are starting to tell. I just wanted to add a bit to CaptainAustrali's comments about dealing with tricky situations. My mother was a smoker for the best part of three decades - and developed breast cancer, which moved to her lungs. In my view, she did not bring it on herself; I do not blame her one bit. I will never, ever forgive the cigarettes. It's not what you did or didn't do (every person on the planet could live a better life, after all) - it's those nasty little sticks. ... View more