Hi Budgie, thanks so much for your reply. My dad is 75. He has been battling cancer for the past 13 years. He was cancer free for 10 and then the last two years, he’s been through chemo, with some success and then about 5 months ago, he was given 6 months to live as there were no more treatment options. We understand about the blood, and they don’t give him too much, just enough for a basic top up, and they do make him feel so much better. It’s just scary knowing that maintaining this level of ‘health’ could be taken away, and my dad knows it. He keeps saying...I don’t think they’ll give me anymore blood.... and this his causing him anxiety. To top it all off, he all of a sudden lost his hearing...I mean overnight! He is significantly deaf. Palliative doc and nurses just didn’t give us any ideas or ways to help...as this too has now caused him to be so sad.... I had to be provocative and act fast to get him his hearing back. Thanks to the amazing people at Hearing Australia, they promptly organised a headset and voice amplifier and quickly tested his ears for a hearing aid ( I hope he makes it to receive them). The palliative doctor and nurse had said there is nothing we can do for his hearing.... but there was. His home visit palliative nurse said that as carers, we do need to be proactive in ensuring their end of life journey is ‘calm’...yes there are drugs to confuse them....but just before we get the patient to that point, they need to know that their life still counts and not be treated like ..‘ a dead person’ ...like you no longer matter to society..... it’s just a shocking realisation for me. I will continue to be vigilant with doctor advice and advocate for him ..... my dad would have done it for us.
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my dad has advanced prostate cancer. Two months ago, he essentially went from working, driving etc... to not being able to walk properly, slurred speech and breathless. He had already been on palliative care and the meds were working well in keeping his life ‘normal’.
In any case, we then went back to hospital and his medication was readjusted so that he would be out of pain, and we eliminated the drug that was making him sound drunk, confused and had him seeing things that weren’t there.
The palliative doctor was been reluctant to give him any blood at first, but about a 6 weeks ago the doctor finally gave him some blood and it really made him feel better,
The issue is that the benefits of the blood transfusions only last 2 weeks or so, and he has had more transfusions since. All of which improve his life a little.
As the cancer is advancing, the doctor is now telling us that he doesn’t want to give anymore blood as it is a precious resource and my father isn’t really benefiting from them.... but I can see the difference, he’s stronger and can even go for a walk.
To top it all off, my father suddenly lost his hearing ... This happened overnight. The palliative doc just said nothing we can do even if he didn’t look in dad’s ear. The hearing loss is making him go crazy... this is possibly worse than seeing him in pain, he can’t hear the TV and no help was offered, not even a suggestion. We placed my mum’s hearing aid in his ears and can hear with them. After much research on the Internet, Hearing Australia will come and give him a device that will help him hear .....
I’m just wondering if anyone else has come across this ‘it’s not worth it’ attitude from palliative care.... I mean my father is still here... he eats, drinks, reads... he is still with us... why make him suffer?
sorry for the long post, I suppose I’m perplexed at the attitude the palliative care are giving us.
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