The thing is Mitsy, your sister has had this terrible disease for 3 years now. She has had a chance to get into a routine. Obviously the routine is variable, depending on tests & treatment.  I have no idea how her relationship is with her husband, good, great or better, I hope.At the end of the day, he is with her a lot of the time. He is probably in as much of a rut, routine as  she is. That’s where you fit in. Her husband knows most everything about her & her cancer. You on the other hand know SO much more. You have lived in her life, in it’s entirety. You know when she is looking for sympathy, looking to get that extra pat on the back, from mum & dad, as kids. Everything, nothing can escape you.  she is using your unbreakable ties to get to a happier place, like when you were kids. That’s good, that’s what brothers & sisters do, but you need to let her know, there are limitations. Your there, you help, and your a great sister,but, it cannot take over your life.   without sounding horrible, your sister has the cancer and your not meant to suffer it by proxy, with her. A sibling is a support, not a crutch. Love her, but don’t die from the stress in helping her.   Thats my thought. I really wish you and your sister all the best.   Lindsay ... View more