@Steggy111  This article might be of help - needs to be adjusted in some way for a spouse but the principles are the same ie if she does all the cooking, give her a night off.    Allow her to grieve in her own way and often a hug or an empathic response is more helpful than offering any solution.    https://www.agingcare.com/articles/be-a-true-friend-to-a-family-caregiver-167934.htm?fbclid=IwAR080zEEI_sodbWo9IPpUKKNP-JI7KzjsekjdE7Cs_3WkRk5shHMDYA2u5w ... View more