January 2021
Thank you i wish we could exchange numbers because i do have a understanding what you are also going through, I hope all is as well as it can be.
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January 2021
Hi i do hope you are doing okay you shouldn't have to go through so much but they say there is a reason i dont know myself what it is maybe just to make us stronger or love the ones we have closest to us more.But thank you for letting me in on your feelings sorry i have not been able myself to read about others grief and loss i have had some ups and downs with xmas Wish you all the best
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January 2021
Thank you for sharing your story we sound like we have alot in common i am sorry to hear you to are in that horrible position i would like to tell you if i may please spend all the time you can and record your husbands voice so you can hear him i wish i had of done that but that is me .I am also happy to hear you have involved your kids they to will be feeling it. I don't know what area you live in but i did find palliative care support workers came to my home which is little different than others i live on a boat, rain hail and shine they also offered me therapies and someone to talk to to ask all the questions i needed answered .Little haven were awesome for me I did keep him a.t home till his last breath, which gave myself and kids the time they needed to say goodbye. Just give him as many cuddles you can everyday i don't know him or you but i am sending you all my best wishes and you will get through this. I found writing my thoughts out on paper was also helpful just to release the hurt and anger i had .Let the tears flow
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January 2021
Patches Thank you for your message it is good to know someone else understands. I do hope you had a great xmas and new year i know for me being the first one without my husband so very lonely but i am lucky that i do have children but just not the same but made it through i guess that is the main thing. So how are you new fur friends i did the same thing i went out just after his passing and bought a kitten which i called toffee she has a lot of traits that remind me of my husband. So i think it is worth others thinking of getting a fur friend to really think about it It is its own therapy and you have something that relies and truly loves you and those cuddles you need at times.
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October 2020
sorry i just read this now, I really hope your doing better. Please try and enjoy the time you have let every one in your life know how you feel if you love you love tell them .If you want to scream do it but just know there are others out there your not alone
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October 2020
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Hi i am 44 my husband passed away 2 months ago after a 5 year battle with bowel cancer He was diagnosed as terminal at that time the cancer had already spread we had gone through surgery loads of chemo and sert radiation with what I can only say as a really hard battle we all lost, that is we have children 8 ,15,17 and they had to go through it just as much as us as we always involved them in the whole journey or roller-coaster ride the ups and loads of downs never knowing what was around the next corner was the hardest but we spent every second we could together I was by his side all the way, he passed at home we chose to get help from pal care he also as I read earlier passed when i went out for five min and i was always there for him that hurt real bad and others tell me that is what some people do but why I wanted to be with him not leave him to go alone .I thought i was ready for what was inevitable but truly i was not prepared for the loss .I suffer every day and i know some will tell me be thankful as I have beautiful children but it just isn't the same as having your life partner there to cry, laugh be happy all those moments life puts out there for us i just miss him so bad and i have no other family to talk to not that they would understand as they have not been through anything like this ....worst of all no one really understands how lonely it can be after spending my whole life together and then just like that gone i was 15 when we met and till now 28 years we were happy had each other for support i do think he hung on as long as he could because he knew i was not ready but i dont think i would ever be. If there is anybody in this same or similar position and wants to talk i would be happy to or if you are going through and want to ask me questions if i can offer advise in any way i would be happy to
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