Hi @KML  Coming to terms with your mother's diagnosis is a big thing let alone moving interstate and putting your career on hold as you care for your Mum.   Getting some supports in place for yourself is vital.  Carers Australia has some excellent resources and links to the Carer Gateway.    Have you moved to a location where you are able to reconnect with family/ friends?  It is a bit of a bummer at present with all the Covid restrictions as joining a hobby group is also a great way of meeting people but also providing you with some time out.  Getting a good routine established helps and learning to give carer guilt a swift kick out the door is important early on.    Having a counselor is helpful and utilising the free counseling the Cancer Council or the Carer Gateway provides might be of use to you as a starting point. You will find a recurrent theme of self care and doing things that foster resilience. It is not easy as we have our own emotions to negotiate as well as trying to keep things as stress free as we can for our loved ones and feeling at times that no matter what we do we can't win ... yikes!   I am a firm believer however that instead of hoping for  a miracle  cure (which in my husband's case is medically improbable, but if he responds to chemo a few years is possible) that our energies are best spent on  living as well as possible and tackling problems head on as they arise.  My husband cannot see that is is possible to have joy despite his condition as yet and I have found I have needed to provide him with persistent gentle encouragement.      ... View more