Hi Jane, wonderful and inspiring blog. It is very real and as a daughter and now carer of my Mum who has recently been given the news that she does not have long to go - but how long , nobody can tell us- the collective experience of going through treatment, from a non english speaking background, getting to live the routine with my Mum (end stage lung cancer) and Dad (who has early stage dementia), your words resonate on many different levels. On the emotional, physical and spiritual levels where she literally only turns to me to live the experience with her. So I now feel like we all have cancer and try every day to do the best we can to inspire one another in a bubble of positivity, which at any time could burst:)  But-with many new hats, many opportunities have emerged to create new memories: In addition to the daughter, I am now the carer, the companion, the counsellor, the Priest, the Masterchef, the exercise guru, podiatrist, the breath master, the house cleaner, the shopper, the uberdriver, the fashionista and Master of mindfulness:) ... View more

Hi Anka80. My beloved Mum was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer on 11/11/20....our world fell apart. She had fluid on the lungs but no major symptoms except a bit of tiredness, and a cough. COVID meant she stayed home much of the time and my sister and I took turns doing shopping etc. Like you, I have stepped in and can see how much she has gone down. My niece and nephew are 9 & 12 and it was devastating seeing them crying as Mum is their only Grandmother...Mum started chemo last week and is getting lots of nausea and tired all the time. My advice is cry when you feel like crying privately. Put on your best smile to keep her positive when you are with her. We have been told “months” but don’t know how many.....so make every day special, get the kids to spend quality time with your Mum and take time out for you to do something nice for yourself every week. Have a coffee or cake with her, a haircut or massage, put on happy songs or music or a DVD...pls keep in touch and update as to how you are going as most days it’s the small acts of kindness that make a big difference. Praying for you🙏💕 ... View more