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LizJessie

Hi Patches Thank you so much for that information! I will be getting onto some of that for sure! I work for Services Australia and we have a program called Benestar which is their own counselling services free of charge for us employees, and immediate family members so I will enquire to my boss when I call her tomorrow to update on the situation (she's given me until Tuesday off so I can be there for my partner) As for carers, the surgeon said we'll have a social worker talk to us soon after the colonoscopy so I may ask them if there's any local carers support groups. In terms of friends, I really only have one close friend (outside my workmates) and I've already told her. She's already ready to drop everything to be there for me, and I appreciate her so much right now. As for family doctor for the kids, I love that idea. We have an amazing one, who's so gentle, so we'll book an appointment with him just for a chat. And the us as a family, my partner hates photos, but has already agreed to include himself in more. Our favourite thing to do is visit this amazing bakery, which is something we were going to do for his birthday today, so we'll make sure to do more of those trips. He also converted from an NRL fan to an AFL fan, so I'm going to see about getting to as many AFL games as we can. Thank you again, I've got so much research to do 😊

LizJessie

Hi everyone. My name is Liz and I'm 35. I have two beautiful kids and live in WA. Today, the 17th of January, my partner turns 28. For his 28th birthday, he was diagnosed with colon cancer. He went to the hospital on Friday morning with severe bleeding from his bottom and tests began the second he got in the ED. They found a growth on his colon on a CT scan and had blood tests galore. He's having a colonoscopy tomorrow (18th) to find out the stage he's at. My partner, at the age of 15 was diagnosed with Aspergers and so he's not handling this well at all. Worse than I thought. He's currently still in hospital awaiting the colonoscopy (I have a couple of days off of work to be there with him through it, and the ex husband - kids dad - has agreed to have them so I can concentrate on him) and he's talking about just wanting to end it all now, but I've said to him to please speak to the nurses about how you're feeling. I've even said to him that my priority is him, I will take as much time off work as I need to, to be there for him. Enough of all that, I just want to know, besides just being the support foundation for him, what else can I do? I've been researching treatments, how to clean stoma bags, diet with a stoma bag, anything I can honestly think of that can help. Also, what else can I do for myself, in terms of self care? We've been together 4 years and my kids love him like he's their biological dad. My daughter even almost bought him a "Happy birthday dad" card. I am a mess, I've been crying non stop with them around. I just can't deal with anything right now and am honestly numb. Any suggestions will be taken on board, so I can make all of this easier.

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