Hi, I'm very sorry to hear about your Mum. You don't come across selfish at all. You come across as someone who is trying to come to terms with your Mum being sick and trying to process that.   I'm not too sure what the outlook is like for your Mum. Some times when we are approaching the end of life (whether this is real or simply perceived), well, one thing I've learnt is that everyone deals with this differently. Maybe she needs a bit of space to try and process this? But I can also understand why you would want to be there for her.   My only advise is to try and talk to her about it and give her some space.   Best of luck. -s   ... View more