My eldest brother has had stage 4 pancreatic cancer for 3 years.  He has undergone several rounds of chemo and immunotherapy treatment, however the last treatment  didn't work.  He was given a timeline from his oncologist last week of 3 months (I'm aware this period of time could be longer or shorter).  He usually has his pain quite well under control, and when phoning him, most times he's doing ok, but today he wasn't great .  My brother lives in Ipswich and i live in Townsville.  I'm not sure how to ask my question, and I'm sure it is one that has been asked previously.  I have time free at the moment from work/study to visit him and help out where I can, or the very least be company and to listen and spend some bro and sister time.  Should I visit or wait to be asked?   I must add, he has 3 amazing adult children with families, who go above and beyond to be there for their dad.  My brother and I have other sibling as well, however they can't get away as easily as me at the moment...... I think my real question is simply 'how should I be there for my brother?'     ... View more