Hi Traci-Rene'e,   I know exactly what you are going through.  Cancer destroys everything in its path.  Like you and your husband we had so many plans.  I feel helpless.  I am very happy that your husband realizes how lucky he is to have a wife who loves and supports him like you.  I am very sad to hear about your Mom.  She is your angel and she will guide and protect you.  As of now, nothing has changed and it is unbearable.  I just want to love and support my wife through this horrible illness.  She is very angry at me.  99% of the time I am very patient but sometimes I ask her if she will ever stop being angry at me.  I've apologized for things that I don't even know that I have done.  It just seems that there is nothing that I can say to make things better.  Prior to her diagnosis like any other married couple we would have a disagreement and in a day or so it would be okay.  Once this happened, I am public enemy number 1.  It really hurts.  I just want my wife to stop ignoring and rejecting me.  I am not looking for anything in return...just kindness.   You and your family are in my prayers.   Your Friend,   Ralph ... View more

Hi Traci-Rene'e,   Congratulations on your granddaughter...you are blessed!  Yes, I was born January 1968.  My wife is currently taking Kisqali, synthroid (she had thyroid cancer), anastrozole and monthly lupron injections to put her into menopause.  None of these are steroids.  She is not doing chemo.  She needs to take the above medications everyday.  Aside from her diagnosis she is healthy and goes to work five days a week.  I feel that we are wasting time.  We should be enjoying each other and having fun but instead she is always angry with me.  For 25 years I have been a loyal and  faithful husband.  All I want to do is care for her. She doesn't want me to do anything for her.  She doesn't even want me to go with her for appointments.  Sometimes I just want to leave but I tell myself that it would be easy to do that.  I remember our vows "in sickness and health, for better and for worse."  It is definitely for the worse😊.  My son says I don't know why mom is doing this and my daughter doesn't want to talk about it with me.   I hope that your husband and your family are doing well.  Please make sure that you are taking care of you Traci Rene'e.  I appreciate your encouragement very much.  Please stay strong, please stay well.   Best,   Ralph  ... View more

Dear Traci-Renee,   Thank you so very much for your words.  I am praying for you and your family.  You and I understand the pain involved.  My wife and I have two children (24 & 19 yo).  My only wish was to make my wife happy and give her all of the love that I could during this awful time.  Instead, it has been a disaster.  My wife ignores me rejects me and when she does speak to me it is not very nice.  The other day even though she has been angry with me I asked her for a hug, she looked so beautiful.  She said no.  Being human I asked her why is this happening and how long she is going to remain angry with me.  She responded "forever."  I told her "forever is a long time."  She then raised her voice at me in front of her mother (who is staying with us by the way).  I just told her that I loved her and that I will never give up on us.  I also said that I am sorry for anything that I've done.  She is wonderful to everyone else but me.  I have been through it all with her.  I have cooked for her, appointments, made sure she has taken meds,  and has been devastated by her diagnosis.  I miss her.  She hasn't slept in the same bed with me since March.   I know that it isn't about me but it really hurts.  Now that both of our kids are out of the house I really thought that this would be "our time."  It has been nothing short of a disaster.  Once again, I am praying for you and your family.  Please stay strong and i sincerely thank you again for your wonderfully kind words. ... View more

Dear EM74,   I am going through the exact same thing with my wife.  She was diagnosed with Stage 4 Breast Cancer in Jan. 2021.  She has treated me very poorly and it hurts.  I love her so much and I'm trying to be patient.  She has said that she is leaving and when I try to speak with her she gets very angry and says such terrible things.  This isn't my wife...I don't know who this is.  I just want to love and support the woman that I married 25 years ago.  She's everything to me.  I am trying to be patient and 99% of the time I am...but I'm human too and all I'm trying to do is love and support her.  Hang on EM74. ... View more