Thank you for the article about anticipatory grief on this website. It sounds like my exact experiences!
I am supporting a close friend 76 yo with gastric cancer rapidly spreading in his lungs, causing breathlessness. A second round of chemo is coming up. The first one last year gave him 7 reasonably good months in spite of mouth ulcers, tiredness etc. This time the prognosis isn't good and the chemo sounds like it will be even stronger.
I simply wish to wave a "magic wand" and make this nightmare go away - denial and guilt and sadness all mixed up with trying to be less "emotional" as I think that's upsetting to the person who has to go through it all.
I've been to Cancer Support Groups and a workshop on advanced cancer and hope to find other carers here to share experiences and boost morale. Thanks for listening.
