GBM takes another Loved One

[Minx]

Has been a while since I have been on this site, Pete lost his battle with GBM 6/9/13. Things started to change when he got lost going to work on the 19/8/13, quickly we saw changes to the point on the following Monday 26/8/13 I called for him to be taken for assesment so I could get our house prepared for the new Pete. As he got assessed our wonderful coordinator told me that he was more then likely not coming home so onto the palliative hospital waiting list he went. Pete never got out of bed again. He never did make it to the palliative hospital as no beds were available. We had such great staff at the hospital that Iam glad we stayed there, I slept on a mattress each night in the same room. I was with him as he let out his final breath on the Friday afternoon 6/9/13.

[tatsoi]

So sorry to hear this news. Your stories have been inspiring ...and your brave man did so well. Another time of change.... Take care of you and your family Xxx

[yvette975]

Thinking of you and your family ox

[tropical]

Oh Minx, I'm so sorry. As you're aware, the rollercoaster continues as we navigate our new life. My thoughts are with you and your family. I wish you all the very best. xx

[Melanie]

Oh Minx, I am so sorry for you. Take care of yourself

[Deni_55]

Am so sorry for your loss. There are no words to express the sadness. So sorry for you and yours...D

[storm]

Hi Minx Just a big hi Minx, and hugs Lorraine died 1/09/12 so I am a year into my memories, my grief. And like your Pete, Lorraine allowed me to be with her and witness her last breath. And again we walk a similar path Hugs Geoff

[Deni_55]

HI Storm, I remember following your blogs re your precious Lorraine as my Kevin was following her path. I remember what you went through and found inspiration. I have always remembered you. Kevin died on the 28th Nov 2012. I have been through all the ups and downs that only grief can impose on you. I think i have done ok and have probably just hit a bit of a downer where my usual techniques no longer seem to be so effective. I feel like I need to land and haven't found my feet. I guess I am also realising life has changed around me without Kevin to support me. Thanks to family, friends, counsellor, and these blogs, I know I will get through the other side. It was so nice to see your blog. Wish the circumstances were different. Hang in there as we all must. We are here for a reason.....Best wishes....D

[storm]

Hi Deni I have tried to reply to you away from Minx's blog. I feel she needs acknowledgment and support of her vey fresh grief and loss So I hope this reaches you as a private message. Thank you for your thoughts Special warm hugs for your downer day/s and also your days of being ok. Your first anniversary is close nearly a month away. How are you coping? Any special plans/ rituals? If its any constellation I too still don't know where to place my feet although I feel a "cross road/s" is/are coming so I am waiting to see the directions that present (and to find my path without the physical presence of Lorraine) I found the anniversaries of the times when Lorraine's deterioration was significant returned me to my grief. Often it was not until my feelings had subsided and I reflected that I was able to understand. The march of time made my short term memories dissipate It was something that I did not want to loose (its like having a second death of her with the loss of those memories). I can not keep them as they are no longer reinforced by her presence on a day to day mundane level. Now I rely on my intermediate and long term memories. The best part is I also lose the irritating small day to day things that plague relationships. I am also able to call her all those nasty things and she cant retaliate :}....well in this lifetime (as in what is left for me) Then again I had a dream of Lorraine the other night......... OMG she my come back and kick my arse but now in my dreams...........women Hugs Geoff

[Minx]

Thanks everyone, my time at the moment is taken with dealing with institues, banks, RMS sorting out super etc. I know this will all resolve then I will be left with my empty heart and soooo much time. I am thankful for our girls they really are the only reason I can get up and face each day. Hugs to you all Xo Good to hear from some of you who haven't been here for some time, take care.