Hi guys my dad was diagnosed with cancer back in June 2019 the doctor had made some phone calls to do extrays and so on and it turned out that my dad had a small tumor just on the right side of his chest its now been 8 months since then my dad didn't follow up on treatment and so he managed to have his first treatment ever it was immunotherapy treatment that took place about a month ago he's body had a bad reaction from the treatment at the time my dad has a lung infection I had no idea he had it plus he's a smoker smokes like a train he ended up in the ice for couple days he was very sick so then on wards my dad has now decided to not go ahead with treatment for me as his younger daughter i have been caring for my dad since his been diagnosed with this cancer it's been very hard for me and my family emotionally mentally and physically this cancer thing is very new to me this is however the very first time that I have experienced anything like this and some times it's so hard to process what is happening and what is going to happen to my dad don't get me wrong I love my dad so much i respect his wishes I'm not gonna force him to do something he didn't want to do he wants to be at home with his family be as comfortable as possible it's been so painful to watch my dad go through all of this pain and sickness some times i feel so helpless at times i haven't had anyone to talk to about this and that's why I'm here hoping to get a conversation with someone that is going through the same thing as me and my family anyway il leave it there hopefully hear from you kind peope very soon thanks guys take care.

 

Kind Regards 

 

Tracy 💔

 

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sch
Valued Contributor

Hi Tracy,

 

I'm so sorry to hear about your Dad. I really am.

What is Dad's prognosis with the cancer treatment?

 

Going through treatment (surgery, chemo and other therapies) will all take their toll on quality of life. They can all have serious consequences on quality of life. More so if he's not in the best of health already.

We all have to weigh up the benefits of surgery/treatment against the negatives of living with side effects of the treatment has on our quality of live, with the time that we have left.

One might choose quality of life (even if it's at a reduced life span) if choosing to have treatment could conceivable lead to poorer qualify of life and less quality time with our family and friends.

 

My dad died from cancer, so I'm speaking from experience. Let me know if you have any questions or want me to expand upon anything.

 

-sch

 

 

 

Chargo
Frequent Visitor

Hi Tracey my dad was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer in October 2019..only treatment  he got offered is immunotherapy only as his bio markers were extremely high which mean it should help him otherwise they stated he would not have been offered any treatment at all.. He lost about 20 kgs in the fist couple of months of diagnosis, He is in a fair bit of pain when sitting in chairs & going to appointment ,so spends most of his time lying down..I’m very much in the same situation as you unsure as to how quickly he will deteriorate . I must say he has had 3 doses of immunotherapy & has handled it well with only side affect being very tied for 1st couple days after treatment. He has ct scans & oncologist appointment mid feb so then we will find out if it is helping .. my thoughts are with you at this extremely difficult time 😢

Tracy8
Frequent Visitor

Hi guys thank you so much for your comments advise and experience unfortunately my dad is not having treatment due to the reaction he had last month so he is now at home comftable as possible he has been experiencing all of his body just in pain every were even his legs been very sore i have been given my dad leg massages sort of giving him some kind of relief but from my point of view he's just getting worse day by day it's so hard to see him in so much pain and yes he's still smoking like a train anyway have a good day you mob hopefully hear from you soon take care.

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