People keep telling me that there is hard road ahead - well people it's pretty crap already , my Dad has stage 4 lung cancer with secondary tumors in his brain and as of last Friday they think that there is cancer spreading into his bones. I am finding it hard to discuss things that aren't clinical with most people i know because i don't know if they will understand, so looking around today and found these wonderful blogs from great people who have been there done this and found myself reading through and gaining inspiration from some and heart break from others. Dad was diagnosed just before Christmas last year and the feeling at the beginning was hopeful , we'll get through radiation then see what's next , then it was Chemo it started about a month ago. Chemo has now stopped the Doctor's say it's not the right action and it's Palliative care time. So that means me moving home to help mum care for dad - i started moving back on Saturday. Dad was hospitalised on Sunday night - he was having trouble breathing. I am scared , i am angry , i am loosing the hope that was once there - no one can tell me how to do this??? each day bring a whole new bunch of stuff to discuss , worry about. Yesterday bought Dad being hospitalised , today bought the notification from the real estate stating that the owners of our rented home is being sold. What will tomorrow bring ??? Hopefully some strength , it's needed right now. Let's try sleeping on that , maybe some positive thoughts may bring a better tomorrow ??? Over and out Amie
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Hi Amie, My thoughts go out to you and your parents. I am in a similar position to you - my dad was diagnosed a couple of months ago with bladder/kidney cancer and it has spread to his bones. My dad is having chemo but this is only to help give him some more time. If you have seen my home page you will see I had a MAJOR melt down yesterday! The support that I have received so far through this website has been my strength. My friends that I have know for many many years mean well but... I am taking another step forward today and calling the Cancer Council Help Line, it has taken me a while to do this but today I will call after I have spoken to dad. You have every right to be angry, lost, scared and confused, this is a horrible disease and it is hard to watch loved ones suffering. I recommend you vent on your blog, It certainly helps me to get things off my mind and clears my thoughts ready for the next issue. Someone is always prepared to listen and there are some fantastic people on here who have wonderful words of wisdom to offer from their life experiences. I sincerely wish you all the best and hope that you and your family can enjoy the Easter weekend. Look after yourself and don't forget that there are a lot of people out there that will support you through everything. Katie 🙂
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Hi Amie, This is the place to vent. No questions and no judgements here. I agree with Katie, contact the Cancer Council Helpline for some one on one assistance. There are no easy answers. I wish there were. Take lots of care of you and your family. Samex
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Thanks so much - support is wonderful and having a place to vent is amazing. again thanks 🙂
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When things go wrong as they sometimes will, When the road you're trudging seems all uphill, When the funds are low, and the debts are high, And you want to smile, but you have to sigh, When care is pressing you down a bit, Rest if you must, but DONT YOU QUIT! Success is failure turned inside out, the silver tint of the clouds of doubt. And you never can tell how close you are, It may be near when it seems afar, So stock to the fight when you're hardest hit - It's when things go wrong that you MUSTN't QUIT!
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Hi there Amie. I totally know where you are coming from. My 83 yr old dad was diagonised with oesophageus cancer last year and had radiation but they wouldn't do chemo as they felt his body wouldn't cope. I have bedn trying to get him to move in with me (I live alone) and he is here now till next week and wants to come back end April for 3 weeks but like you I am only renting and I have this worry if my lease is not renewed(highly unlikely) then what will we do. But he is so positive and at least if he is here with me I know he is eating etc and I can keep an eye on him.As Katie said please ring Cancer Council as they have been a huge help to me especially with the relaxation tape they sent me. Before I couldn't sleep at all and now if I play CD I drift off after 5mins and at least get some sleep. As my dad says to me "keep thinking positive" but its so hard when you are seeing the one you love in so much pain. Take care Chris
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