Hey Mini
Right now, my husband is having treatment every fortnight. Now, he's always had quite a high sex drive while mine seems to go in waves.
Of late, mine is dead in the water - I am far too tired and emotionally exhausted to contemplate sex much. Plus, my anti-depressants (for an anxiety disorder) seem to put a dampener on the good ole libido, yay for me.
What's weird is, hubby is the one having treatment, is tired beyond belief yet on his good week (non-chemo week), I have to bring out the headache excuse at least once LOL.
We, being newlyweds, should be shagging like bunnies but like others have said, Cancer Land really takes it out of you. Sex isn't really sexy when you have to worry about contraception so his chemo drugs don't affect me and my fertility, if you get my drift. Or I have to be careful not to touch his surgery scar on his tummy as it's still tender. Kinda takes the spontaneity out of it all.
I think sex for a lot of 'cancer couples' is about staying reconnected and keeping the intimacy alive, even when the body couldn't give a rats ass in a world where it's all very sterile, medical and matter of fact. Well, at least I think that's what it is for us.
Jo