Your poor mum. You sound like a wonderful daughter. It sounds like a combination of fatigue from the treatment and depression. Would she consider seeing a psychologist? The hospital should be able to arrange one.
It sounds like you're already encouraging her to do the things she once enjoyed. Don't nag her, but gently keep at it. Make it easy by bringing things to her.
If she's always looked after everyone else, she may feel like she has no role now she is the one who has to be looked after. Remind her that you're paying her back for all the amazing things she did for you. And perhaps give her tasks to help her feel useful again. For example, if she liked to knit before, start knitting something yourself and ask for her help. Ask her if she'll write down your favourite recipes, and then make them for her. Ask for her advice on problems in your life. She may need to be reminded she's still an important part of the family.
Sorry to hear after your Mum
was diagnosed with Endometrrial Cancer she has lost the will to continue with experiences she had enjoyed before
pretty normal needs to find change I can't help with that as I too experienced life being different wasn't engaging in the same Lukes as before,
bit that's ok
we change the experience had changed us
nobody has the answer I am just going to say
don't hassle her
it's not your life to do that
I don't mean to be harsh
but you will never know how she really feels
how she has changed
I have changed I wish i didn't but why ????
because change is the hardest thing to accept
I now can't walk no gait at all
morw change ..... adapting to this new experience has been the hardest to me,
we are all different
give your Mum Space this is her journey
I can't explain it to you any other way
be a great daughter as you sound to be
however don't find a happy place for your Mum
ad that you can't do .....
i wisj her well
I hope she finds her place
I am am very sorry to hear about your Mum. I too am struggling with what help I can provide my dearly loved Mum. She has stage 4 kidney cancer which has spread to her lungs, liver and lymph nodes - she is 70 years old. I just want yo to know your not alone please reach out if you would like to chat further.
Hi Alina...Im sorry to hear about your mum. My partner is 71 and was diagnosed with lymphoma brain cancer last Nov....since then he has had chemo and radiation and is now in remission...he suffers from fatigue he says he aches all over all the time. Like your mum he wants to sleep just watch Tv all day apart from doctors and hospital appointments he doesnt want to go any were.stays in his pyjamas .he wont brush his teeth get washed for days..you can only do so much you cant make them do things they dont want to..we just get told 6-12 months till things get better..i work full time and then get home and start looking after my partner..he will make his own breakfast and warm up soup for lunch but thats all...you have just got to be posative and take each day as it comes cos they have good days and bad days...you say your mum lost her appitie..try and find something she really likes even if its chocolate icecream it is at least something they like..i know its not a healthy option.but if its something they like....or even the build up drinks are good...I wish you and your mum well...take care
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