My mum was diagnosed with breast cancer back in 2020, a couple months later it had metastasised and spread to her bones. Her breast cancer is aggressive HER2+.
She has ongoing treatments every 3 weeks, fast forward 4 years, recently the drugs have stopped working. It has now spread to her lungs and liver. She’ll be starting back at the beginning with full Chemo again.
I live on the other side of the world, have done for 15 years. I miss my mum and have visited a few times in the past and she visits here every couple of years. I have a family, young children and am pregnant. I’ve already been down the road of should we move back, my mum refused this and said she’d be furious if I did this so we’ve stayed put and just continued visits.
Now that her cancer has spread and it’s been 4 years I’m starting to really worry about the end. The thought alone absolutely destroys me, but in this forum my question is more around how do I handle this?
If she went downhill I would want to be there, my husband wouldn’t likely be able to travel with me. Would you take your kids and just try and cope with them and your grief or leave them behind and miss them immensely. What if I’m too pregnant to travel? I know this seems a small thing overall but it’s the last part of getting my head straight and around everything, I need to know what to do so I can prepare.
please if you’ve been in a similar situation what have you done?
