Salivary gland cancer

[Toni]

My husband has just been diagnosed with aggressive salivary gland cancer. He is also a hemophiliac so surgery is risky. We have been seeing head and neck specialists and our last appointment was last week when we got results from second biopsy. We were told it is very aggressive and another spot has shown up on p.e.t scan on back of neck/spine. At this stage they dont think treatment will help with maybe only a few years left in life. This is  big shock to both of us and it is hard to understand why has this happened. I try to be strong for him but i am in such a blubbering mess. I know i am thinking to much to soon but i have never gone through cancer with a loved one so i don't know what to expect. Sorry for long post.

[Budgie]

Hi Toni, 

It’s understandable that you’re in a mess as it’s a lot to take in. 

Education is good.  Try to read as much info as you can, but, remember that everything you read isn’t necessarily going to happen to your husband.  

Take one day at a time, live your life to the fullest, and don’t necessarily believe that your husband only has few more years.  Survival depends an awful lot on the individual. 

Take care of yourself!  That’s one of the most important things to remember. 

All the the best to you & your husband. 

Budgie