Hey Molly
I'm 18 and my mum passed away 5 months ago from mestatic breast cancer, it was rapid, and like your mum, had been given the clear, then bang - a 3 month prognosis - and I felt like it was my responsibility to do a lot of the caring for her. i am lucky in that my dad was there to help too, but I looked after mums meds, meals, everything like that.
I wonder - has palliative care been organised for your mum? We had a nurse come to our home once every 3 days, and then progressively more visits as the cancer got worse.
Also, do you have no family around you that can assist? Give you a bit of a break to have your own time too? Its so important to look after yourself so you can better help your mum.
As much as it seems impersonal, I can suggest calling the cancer council helpline - they're trained and waiting to help you too - don't fob it off, just do it for yourself.
Something you may need to consider with doctors/ nurses is what will happen practically when your mums condition progresses? We were so lucky that my beautiful mum could stay at home with us - but dad was always needed to help with the toilet and shower - just getting mum onto the mobility chair thing, because she lost so much muscle in her legs she could no longer walk.
If nothing works Molly, talk to your friends. You've got to have a vent. 5 months since mum died I'm finally realising that - i always had the attitude that i could cope, i am strong enough etc, but holding it in makes it worse - its good to talk to people and know they are there for you to vent when needed.
And Molly, don't doubt yourself - tell yourself how amazing you are - you can cope, because you're doing it. you are there for your mum every day - coping and doing what has to be done. assisting hands on really helped me. but of course, you're not going to be honky dory - this is serious and you have to expect to have a breakdown once in a while. don't be too harsh on yourself.
here if you ever need to vent, good luck, be strong and confident xxxxxxx
Emma.
