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Only a few months

Hi my husband has been battling stage 4 mantle b cell lymphoma for 8 months now. All chemo has failed and been told his cancer is terminal and only a few months to live. We both are devasted. We are so lost.

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Re: Only a few months

Hi Jenniferwang,

 

I’m sorry to hear your news.  Even though the doctors have given just a few months more, they don’t know exactly when someone is going to die. 

It depends alot on the persons attitude & whether or not they are ready.  If he’s in alot of pain & depression, he may go sooner.   If he’s going well, he may go on for a long time to come. 

 

I am very sorry. Please take care. 

Budgie 

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Thank you budgie. Had cried our eyes out with family yesterday and today. Total loss. He is not in the great health. He is weak. But we are still fighting. 

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Ok i will look into it

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Hi Jennifer, I am really sorry to hear about your husband. This is horrible news.

 

My dad was given similar news 6 weeks ago after living for 12 months with a stage IV bowel cancer diagnosis. He is 65 and I'm 30. I am now caring for him full time.

 

There's not much anyone can say in this situation, but I want to offer some words of advice that have helped me in the past few weeks.

 

Firstly - there will be moments of beauty. It's not over yet. There will be days where things will seem completely normal. Make sure you seize those days with both hands and enjoy every second of them. Every day will be different and some days will be good ones. On the bad days, cry as much as you want. I like to drive away in my car and just scream. Then I pick myself up and get back to it.

 

Secondly - make sure you are accessing all the help you can get. You may need to do your own research as the doctor will not always tell you what is available. Depending on where you live there's likely an amazing palliative care support team available to you. We have nurses that come every day, that is a completely free service. Some days we don't need them, but they come anyway. And they are not just for your husband but for you too.

 

Nobody is alone in cancer. It's happening to both of you, but know there is support around you and that everything will be ok. Just take this time to love him as much as you can.

 

I wish you all the best <3

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thank you selinam. Yes we have Silverchain coming to visit my husband and the doctor came too. they are very nice people as they call daily to check on my husband.

 

his condition got worse and we had to take him to emergency and end up staying in the hositpal for a week.

he is home now resting and silverchain calls to check on him.

 

nice to know there is people out there that cares. 

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Jennifer people do care, have the strength to carry on. At 82 I know I am at the end of my time on earth, to have cancer return at this stage is something I never thought I could handle, but I must. My prayers go out to you and your husband and family.
From Western Australia.
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