Feeling alone during and after Kidney cancer.

[Lesley67]

Hi my name is Lesley. I was diagnosed with Clear Cell Carcinoma Renal Stage 2 in 2021. I had a full right Nephrectomy in April 2022, I had clear margins and had a few scares. Nodes on my lungs which have now disappeared and nodes on my thyroid which were benign. My scans have been clear every other time. I didn't and still don't have any friends or family to lean on. I had and still have my children who are all adults with me most of the time. It's very hard to keep your fear of dying from your kids. I kept most of my fears hidden.

I still find it hard that I was abandoned in my time of need. When you're always there for everyone at any time and when you need a hug and a " you will be ok" from friends and family they are nowhere to be found.

Now I'm looking to connect with others who understand what it's like to go through cancer feeling isolated. It would mean a lot just to chat with people who " get it ".

Thanks for reading 💛

[joseph_CCNSW]

Hello Lesley67.   Thank you for posting here.  The online forum can be a wonderful space to find support from others who connect with your experience and share their own stories. You may also find it helpful to search Cancer Council's  website or to call our 13 11 20 team for information about the range of services available to support you.   Kind regards ... Joseph_CCNSW

[Richard1]

Hi Lesley. The cancer journey is tough. I’ve been  lonely and lost and isolated and scared ever since the doctor told me I had cancer. We’re do you go after all the chaos of surgery and chemo. Trying to stay positive is not easy, I’m not a religious person but I’ve turned to the bible and god for strength and most of all faith. You are not alone, you are with me and other alike on this journey. 

[Lesley67]

Hi Richard

I have just found your reply and thankyou for reaching out to me. 

How are you going? 

I found faith has kept me going also. I think it gets easier with each successful clear scan, but also I dont want to be complacent about it. 

I hope your day is a lovely one.

Lesley 🙂