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Hi,
My name is Mel and I'm 45.
So nearly 12 months ago i was diagnosed with endometrial cancer. It was supposed to be a Hysterectomy and then some radio and that was it.
Unfortunately on the table I went into cardiac arrest, renal and liver failure, DIC and a coma for 3 weeks which they could not wake me up from. My mum and friends were with me all the way but it taken a toll on everyone.
Finally a month nearly later i woke up and during some time my left leg had become numb and also had severe foot drop. I didn't realise at that point i had been the sickest person in westmead icu.
12 months on I still can't feel my leg and the drop foot has not improved but I worked really hard with and learnt to walk again, it is a struggle every day with it and i wish it was easier.
I finished internal radiation in June 25, 3 months later what I thought was a blood clot was actually IV metastic lung cancer and cancer of the port aorta. That hit my mum very hard and I always try and be upbeat to make her feel like she can handle this.
My first scan after 3 treatments of chemo and immunotherapy they were really happy and my cancers had all shrunk. I see the oncologist on 20th Jan 26 to go through the next lot of scans.
During this time my mum has been my rock and i could not have left hospital without her.
I have just completed 6 cycles of chemo and immunotherapy and the plan is every 6 weeks for two years I will do immunotherapy.
A side effect of the immunotherapy is that it gsve me type 1 diabetes so that is something more we are dealing with.
My mum is really struggling to cope atm and she thinks I'm going to die. I have suggested volunteering which she is going to do for the RDA.
I did also suggest maybe seeing a counsellor but she said that won't change my outcome.
I am after any thoughts on how to get her through this and try and make her feel happier.
Thanks
Mel
my Mum is struggling with my cancer, I'm Stage 4 breast and now it's been four years. I have to pretend I don't have it when she is around, my lifestyle has changed and she can't handle it. I don't feel like eating, I dont drink and my hair is thin. she wants the old me back, I sense she is angry at me and would rather spread time with people without cancer.
I also try and be upbeat with her and happy but it's not working. I also don't know what to do, it must be hard watching your children get cancer and there is no cure.
Hmmm I don't have any hints to make your Mum happy. She enjoys spreading time with my children, or going out in public. Sadly I don't make my Mum happy and I do hope you have more success than me.
Take care