Pregnancy for Young Adults who had cancer treatment

[Nikki_YAC]

Butterfly, it is interesting to know that you would still love the choice to have more children even after already having 2 beautiful boys. I remember wanting a sister, as i had 3 brothers. I am sure I will better understand all this when i become a mum. I would not have realsied this unless you said so. So thanks for sharing this with us. Hope you get to bed early tonight or a sleep in tomorrow 🙂 Sleep is good mmmmmmmm

[#2]

When I had my first child I was only 21, so we waited until I was 30 to have our second was hoping for a 3rd & was actually trying when told I had cancer. I know there are many young women & men who can not have their own child & adoption is really not an easy option in our country, which is sad really as there are so many kids who are orphans around the world who would love a home and many Aussies who have had cancer would love to give them a home. Doesnt seem right to me. Im so happy for you Nikki, when do you have your scan? Do you want to find out what youre having? I see a specialist next week for some lumps. My family history for bc is not good with my Mum having had bc twice and my Aunty also so I have to stay on top of these things. I know they will just be cysts (like all the others have been) but still a tad stressful. Do you have any side effects from the tamoxafin Misti? I bet you will be relieved when you can stop taking that. Anyway I will try for that early night tonight. Hopefully we will have others join in here with us soon.

[MissRen]

Hi Ladies, Thanks for being so open and frank. I think this is the perfect forum to do this - Thanks Nikki! When I was diagnosed with breast cancer I went to see a gyno' to discuss IVF treatments. After sitting with him for an hour and listening to 60% this, 80% this, 90% possibility, i felt for me at that time it was a stress that i didn't want to add to the quickly growing list of stresses. The thought of being injected with hormones, harvesting the eggs ect ect was too much. The one figure that stood out was that I had an 80% chance to concieve naturally. I'm more than happy with that! For now my dog is my child and he loves the cuddles and kisses he gets on a regular basis. I told a couple of my friends about my decision to not go ahead with IVF and they could'nt understand why. I explained to them it's like setting goals; you can't do them all at once and you have to look at the importance and impact of each in the short term for the long term. And to seriously ask yourself if you can fully commit to what is required for you to meet your goal. They eventually understood which was great. For now I look forward to buying a new vest for my dogchild. Have a great night everyone and thank you ( :

[slacker]

So nice to hear everyone's stories about pregnancy and kids. . . I have 2 toddlers and hope to have a 3rd child one day, but my cancer diagnosis last year and subsequent treatment will just mean that gets delayed a bit I hope! My little men have been such an inspiration to keep me up and positive through all this, I love them so much but wow it sure is exhausting to combine cancer treatment and surgery recovery with the nights of broken sleep and days full of kids' activities! Despite that, I'd really love to add a 3rd pair of legs to chase around the house in the near future (o: Congrats on your pregnancy Nikki, looking forward to hear how things progress (hope your first trimester has been smooth sailing!) and look forward to hearing everyone else's stories of bubs and pregnancy too!

[Nikki_YAC]

Hey MissReena, thanks for openly sharing your situation. I too love my dog, she is my best friend and was even smuggled into the RMH 5th floor a few times to see me throughout my treatment :) Whe i was dx and the dr's told me i would not have children, i too thought my doogy cuddles would be fine and perhaps one day i could adopt. i am so lucky to be in my current situation - thats for sure. sounds like you are taking a very balance approach to your fertility issues and I find that some friends at the best of times struggle to understand my cancer related issues. you know whats right and living life with less stress is a good way to go - well done! keep us posted on your future fertility movements and best of luck - nikki

[Nikki_YAC]

Hi Slacker, thanks for your post, it is really nice to hear from another mum. Its funny, but all the young mums and dads who are affected by cancer and who i speak to say a similar thing... that their kids are what keeps them going, but hec its full on tiring stuff being a parent and doing cancer. so well done chick! My pregnancy is going very well thanks. I will do up a post in my blog on this site this week and try and add a pic. My first trimester was hard with working full time, having bad morning sickness and fatigue. I have just entered my 3rd trimester now and feeling fab. i have 2 days/week where i feel tired, but no sickness and lots of kicking and movement from the little man (yes its a boy!). how old are your kids now? nikki

[slacker]

Ooh, an active little boy...congrats! My boys are 2 and 3.5 now...and they're still as active as they were when they were squirming around in the womb. So glad I've been feeling more and more physically well in the past few months so I can play all the rough n tumble games little boys like to play! Hope you continue to feel great through these last few months, I remember really enjoying being pregnant even when I was 20kg heavier than when I started (yup, my babies liked me to eat a lot of ice cream!) e

[Nikki_YAC]

hi again, wow your boys must keep you fit and busy at that age, well done chick! Mt food choice ATM is home made biscuits and a glass of milk.... its funny i started to put on a few kilos early on in the pregnancy but I have now lost a few. all up i think i have put on 3 kg. i was really worried about this, but the obstetrician said it is normal to have this happen too and my boy is growing well within normal range (just had a scan at 28 weeks) 🙂

[Vetticus]

Hi, Is there anyone who's considered or has gotten pregnant despite having been given a cancer diagnosis with an uncertain prognosis/future? Specifically thinking a malignant Brain tumour, thinking about potential birth defect issues (I'm on an antiseizure medication), the possibility of needing cancer treatments during pregnancy should a recurrence decide to occur then, and also what people think about the whole idea of potentially having a child and then potentially not necessarily being around to be its mother for long enough (whatever "long enough" is)? Just wanting to explore your collective wisdom and thoughts. By way of background I just got given the diagnosis about 3 mths ago, have finished immediate treatments, was told the median expectation according to standard literature could be recurrence in about 3-5 years (though of course I am hoping for the best...dear god can I have a cure please?). I am 32 and currently don't have any kids, but have a wonderful hubby of 1.5 years. What does one do when it's all so hazy? Thanks in advance, Yvette

[jules_jp]

Pregnancy doesn't have to wait after breast cancer (Dec 2006) - This one includes research done in WA over a 10 year period. http://www.breastcancer.org/tips/fert_preg_adopt/new_research/20061208.jsp Pregnant Women with Breast Cancer Do No Worse than Others(Feb 2009 - a 30 yr study) http://www.breastcancer.org/tips/fert_preg_adopt/new_research/20090209.jsp