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Hey Yvette! Yes it is so hard to watch your partner yell at the kids for no apparent reason......but they will understand. My two (5 & 😎 knew that dad was sick and that's why he was cross and they couldn't sit on the bed and bounce around. Pain makes people (especially men) into totally different beings...... It got so bad in the last months of my husbands life that the kids were pretty much banned from our bedroom, they didn't understand the need to be quiet and gentle......broke my heart, but it made life easier all round. My husband was faecally incontinent for the last year of his life, so that made for a few interesting discussions about poo...... Which my kids now look back at and laugh about when daddy was stinky and pooed his nappy.......and the time my then four year old son offered daddy one of his pull ups for his 'akdents'...... Kids are priceless!!!!!! Just hug them tighter when daddy yells and whisper in their ear that dad loves them more than ever....... That's what I did......they'll get it!! Loads of love and hugs coming your way tonight!! PA xxx

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Hey there! Get onto the Canteen website.....they have camps, counsellors, you name it and they are so helpful!! Cancer council will put you in touch with them if you can't find them....they are awesome!! Good luck to you!! PA xxx

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Hello out there! Hey Melanie! I here ya about the thoughts in your head.....and how it is just not cool to tell anyone how you are really feeling/ thinking....... That's why this blog is awesome!! No judgement, just venting!! Take care of yourself so you can take care of your family!! PA xxx

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Thinking of you......hope you have gotten some rest and peace.........and find some time to laugh in the sadness.......laugh and remember the good times.......it isn't easy at all.....but it does help......a psychologist told me once ( and I have since read this) that laughter and tears come from the same energy.......so i usually start off crying....and make myself remember something hilarious and then cack myself......and then I feel much better!! Weird but hope this help!! PA XXX

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G'day Ray! Hope the visit to urologist is okay.....just cuddle your kids and get lost in their stories and carry on....it helps me!! PA XXX

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Hello there world!! Just a quick post to offer my thanks and gratitude!! Symphony...... Many people ask me how they can help.....and I often don't know what to say.... You have given me some ideas for some really practical tasks that people would be able to do and wouldn't mind doing to help out....... So Thankyou!! Thinking of all of you out there tonight who are walking this path...... PA XXX

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G'day Symphony! Haha! I had to laugh with your comment about the bath..... Yes...... Life with small children marches on so normally in some ways.... Have you thought/ heard about the cancer councils telephone counselling? They have groups and individual counsellors who call you at a suitable, convenient time. My husband had an excellent one who called him fortnightly and offered not only emotional support, but practical support too..... Maybe you could give that a try instead of the support group face to face.... I too am often told that I have incredible strength- which we do- but occasionally you would love someone to take the burden...... Although that is impossible...... It is quite a unique experience we find ourselves on..... Check out the young adult section too..... There may be a support group in your state.... I'm on the NSW/ QLD border...... And I don't know of any young adult group here or on the GC...... Doesn't mean there isn't one..... I just haven't looked hard enough!! Take care!! PA

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I can't believe it has been 7 months since he left us....... In that time we have celebrated his 40th birthday, Easter, Mother's Day, our daughters eighth birthday, Father's Day and our wedding anniversary..... All days were cause for celebration......Father's Day was tough though....both the kids struggled during the week beforehand...making presents in their classrooms for a dad who no longer exists was tough...... But they handled it....on the day itself we decided to paint a wall in our house his favourite colour- black.....so we now have a black wall in the house......cool!! The kids have been amazing.......my five year old is sad very much in the moment, then he moves on super fast.... My daughter who is eight is struggling....but has such amazing support around her.....it has been wonderful!! Cancer is a bad word in our house......much like a swear word really......the kids get quite irate when people say it..... It is quite interesting really how they act with talk of cancer. On the whole though, we are doing okay....I had never imagined myself as a single parent...and still don't think of myself as one....so when it is pointed out to me by government departments, it comes as a shock still..... And filling out the tax form was weird......I am now a widow....weird...... And the conversations I've had with government agencies when telling them of his passing......well I could write an essay on the variety of responses/ reactions I have had......Telstra wanted to speak to him so I could cut off his mobile phone.......I kid you not......... Anyway.....just checking in really.......hope you lot out there who are enduring this journey too find a little peace and quiet in the maelstrom!! PA

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G'day Amanda! Love and hugs and support and understanding coming to you......cancer is tough.....and unrelenting! Take care of yourself over the coming weeks and months...it does get easier.......just takes a long time to build a new normal............ I lost my husband in February.......my condolences and may you find some peace now too!! PA

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Hey Symphony! Great name! I am nearly 41..... Have a daughter who is 8 and a son who is 5. My husband was diagnosed with a rare cancer six years ago next month. Unfortunately, he departed this world in February this year.... And the last year of his life I would not wish on my worst enemy.... It was awful watching and being unable to do anything! Cancer sucks!! But..... I have been supported by friends, neighbours, family, work colleagues, the kid's school/ pre school communities and at times total strangers..... I have certainly found the good in people!! Best of luck to you....... It is hard going!! Feel free to ask any questions..... I'll try and answer them!! Take care of yourself and your kids!! Take each day as it comes and don't be scared to cry!! Thinking of you and sending positivity your way! PA

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