Hi nickij, Such a difficult postion to be in, and a huge thing to try and get your head around - not only for you, but your little girl as well. I can see that although 31 people have read your question, it seems that they might be scratching their heads as to how to deal with this as well. It would be great to hear other's thoughts.... Kate (Coordinator Telephone & Internet Support Groups, Cancer Council of Victoria) ... View more

Dear Merkel, I am so sad to hear your news. I wish you comfort and peace during this time of grief - you are in all our thoughts and prayers. Warmest Regards, Kate (and all the team at Cancer Connections) ... View more

Hi Angela, This sounds like a good question for the "Ask the Helpline" section - you can find this by using the top tabs, or going to http://www.cancerconnections.com.au/content/ask-helpline You can also contact them by calling 13 11 20 in your state. Cheers, Kate ... View more

Congratulations, congratulations, congratulations! The team are all so thrilled for you, this is fantastic news! Take care and enjoy this time, Kate ... View more

Hi Everyone, Sorry, we appear to have another "visitor" to our site posting some innapropriate links - I have reported these and hopefully things will be tidied up shortly. Cheers, Kate ... View more

OK! I have been reading this post evolve over the last few days and was hoping that things would settle.....but I think it's time to share my thoughts! I think it's worthwile reminding us all of some of the important things about this site. We're limited here, as we can't hear each other's tone of voice - so it's really easy to 'read' things in a way they were not intended to be read. We are also discussing deeply personal things - and often reflecting on or writing about these things in public for the first time. I think it's also worth reminding people (and as many have acknowledged in the above posts) that everyone has had a different experience in regards to cancer - and this is on top of huge differences in values, culture, age....etc. It's really important to respect those differences - when we're talking about such personal things, people may (and probably will) say things that might make us feel confronted or uncomfortable. But I think it's important to, as much as possible, to read each other's posts as reflecting their journey and experiences - and not directed at any particular individual on the site. We (The Cancer Council) have worked pretty hard to create this space for you all, knowing that many people benefit from sharing their experiences with those who have been through something similar. I've been so excited seeing this take shape, and the fabulous welcome and support that all of you have given to so many! My hope is that we can focus on those similarities, rather than on the differences. Please let me know if you disagree with anything I've written - you might also have thoughts of your own about things we could add to the "how to use this website section". Feel free to send a private message if you prefer - either to myself or Emmag. I have one more thing to add. As people become closer, and share personal stuff, it's pretty common to have conflict. So in one way, this means that we're scratching below the surface for some people. So the fact that there is conflict does not make me panic - but it does give us an opportunity to have a think about the sort of community we want to be. OK, I'll close my mouth now! Cheers, Kate (Telephone & Internet Support Group Coordinator, Cancer Council Victoria) ... View more

Hi Harker, Thanks for your interest - I'll send you a personal message! Cheers, Kate ... View more

I wonder what we would do with our special powers.... ... View more