Between surgery and radiation ,I started to go back to "normal"life a few weeks after the doctor said I ought . A friend commented that I was "doing really well". I was too stunned to reply because I was thinking "What would you know? I am actually hating what is happening and don't feel happy most of the time." I did know her intention was good . ... View more

I think it was highly unprofessional of your counsellor to talk about God when she knows you don't believe in him. I think you probably trust the church members because you know that their intentions are good and to the counsellor it is probably more than just a job or a career . Maybe she will convert you in time . On other sites I use I am constantly amazed at people saying they are sure God will cure them or they praise Him in the midst of their terrible pain and suffering . Most who mention God only talk of praying for help . That's different . Imagine if your doctor said not to worry because God is looking after you . It's ok if he /she thinks that but, in my opinion ,not ok to say it ,unless he knows you believe in God and knows you well enough . Still, if you are happy with your counsellor stay . If not ,try another . ... View more

You started a good conversation ,Rubes . Sailor ,it was really bad how they didn't cater for you properly at that wedding . Sarah, be glad you don't have outward signs of the cancer you had . I get what you meant but I can tell you disfigurement can be so hard with which to cope . I used to doubt it was worth having surgery because I hated how I looked afterwards . It's not so bad now . ... View more

Exhausted, you have a good attitude . It sounds like you have forgiven but and in time you may even forget . I hope those days were still special for you . ... View more

Pamela, the belief that I failed is still strong but it doesn't make me feel as bad as it did . ... View more

I am so sorry that you and your baby have lost your husband . I have not been through this so can't pretend to know your pain but you will hear from others who have or are expecting to go through similar . I hope you have lots of support from family and friends . ... View more

Wishing you and your husband -to-be a really wonderful day tomorrow . I hope the weather is kind to you too. It looks promising . I hope we get to see a photo ,maybe a new profile pic.? ... View more

Sarah,I get what you said . Others talknabout what's on their minds at tge time but you can't because they don't want to know . Cancer does become your life for a while . This may change to some extent . I don't remember how long you've been living with this and where you're at now . These factors make a hude difference . For me ,not a day goes by that cancer is not on my mind but after more than 2 years since treatment ended ,other things take up a more of my thoughts . I do spend a lot of time talking to others online or reading about them ,especially people with the same cancer as I have/had . I cannot share with others offline either . I will always be a part of a special group which has become more important to me than other friends . ... View more

I think these medical mistakes are not uncommon . Sometimes doctors don't seem to care as much as we think they ought but that's probably not true .That said, you do have to be your own advocate throughout ,which is what was said by Jules2. ... View more

I want to add that I feel that I was unlucky to have had cancer but lucky that I am still here in a not-as -badly -off -as -some state . ... View more