Hello!   It's excellent news to hear that your partner is in great health and is moving forward.   There are many different types of overall cancer and many different treatments available. So don't worry about quickly understanding all the information so briskly, they are not all simple to process. You'll gain understanding with time, plus with the given informative brochures and booklets, it will help assist. Don't forget you can always ask the treating doctor any questions you may have as well. They are a great general source of information.   It's normal for the topic to be somewhat difficult to speak about but it is good to approach the topic and it helps. You sound like a very supportive and emotional intelligence person. Your husband is already in great hands.   - (Your already doing this but others in the future might find it useful). Be there for your partner and let them know, they can discuss the topic or feelings at any time with you; when they feel ready. Simply be available.   - But avoid being over supportive or helpful as this may leave the person angry about being treated differently or as if their helpless. Find that middle ground. - Don't let cancer be the ruling factor in your life. Talk about other topics, create new memories/try new things, drive into a classic novel or start a new hobby.   - Sometimes keeping an general routine and being organized, assists with normalization of life.   - Remember to try and keep contact with loved ones and friends. It's easy to let things slipped sometimes.   Don't forget to look into the great provided websites and information too! ... View more

Hello,   Yes I have, the experience was the following:   - Can barely eat/drink or won't at all - Cannot take oral medication - Had eyes always closed - Didn't speak and barely made any sounds - Swallow breathing - Mass weight and muscle loss - Cold hands and feet - Very pale skin - Blueish lips - Blank stare, no pupil reaction if eyes exposured to light - Blotchy skin   ... View more

Continue being the great friend you already are - Be there for her: You don't need to give advice, you can simply listen and be supportive. It's okay if time doesn't allow for physical present, you can provide support via emotional needs. You could send flowers, have general conversations about daily life or news, tell some jokes, send an care package, books and so forth. Please see the link down below, I believe it could of be some assistances as well.   For additional advice regarding general helpful tips:  Cancer.net - Supporting a friend who has cancer https://www.cancer.net/coping-with-cancer/talking-with-family-and-friends/supporting-friend-who-has-cancer ... View more

Of course but please do not forget about yourself as well. ... View more

Hello,   What you and your family are currently going through, must be difficult to say the least (I know the word 'difficult' isn't enough to even begin to describe it). Your husband seems to need to seek professional help and services as soon as possible, especially if his understandable angry is casuing great distress to others in the family. I know this may sound silly but is there any way that a conversation can be held with him, to discuss the emotional impact that is being caused?  If not or your unsure how to approach this, may I recommend the following support sites from the Cancer Council?   Cancer Connect:   A Connect volunteer can listen with understanding and share their experiences and ways of coping. They can provide practical information, emotional support and hope. Many people newly diagnosed with cancer find this one-to-one support very beneficial.   For more information on Cancer Connect call Cancer Council 13 11 20. https://www.cancer.org.au/about-cancer/patient-support/cancer-connect.html   Cancer Counselling Services:   What is the Cancer Counselling Service? The Cancer Counselling Service is Queensland’s leading cancer specific counselling service. This service is staffed by nurse counsellors and registered psychologists, all with training and experience in helping people affected by cancer.   Counselling can assist you at any stage of your journey, from diagnosis through to living with or having survived cancer. You can also benefit from this support if you are grieving.   What services are available? Because we realise people’s support needs vary, we provide counselling within a stepped model of care. This means, where possible, we start with guided self-help delivered by our nurse counsellors. Our service is provided via Telephone and Skype, with face-to-face appointments available in some locations.   Nurse counsellor service Our nurse counsellors provide guided self-help, in the form of a single telephone session and a follow up contact. They offer guidance and tips on coping with the effects of cancer or adjusting to life with or after cancer. They also provide support with making decisions related to treatment and addressing treatment concerns.   Where guided self-help does not address your concerns, we will link you in to our psychology service.   Psychology service Those experiencing high levels of distress will bypass guided self-help and be linked into our psychology service. Our psychologists provide more intensive support in the form of therapy which involves a number of one-on-one counselling sessions.   Group programs and Workshops Group programs are conducted over the telephone as well as face-to-face in Brisbane and selected regional offices. These programs will enable you to learn new skills in assisting you to cope with cancer and its related challenges. Our workshops, focusing on specific coping skills, such as relaxation and mindfulness, are usually delivered face-to-face in locations around the state.   What support does the Cancer Counselling Service provide? We can assist with a range of cancer concerns including: Adjusting to life with cancer Stress and difficulty coping Depression Anxiety Sleep difficulties Loss Family or relationship problems Treatment side-effects Sexual problems Uncertainty about the future Survivorship Fear of recurrence Therapy related to end of life Bereavement support Are there fees for the service? There is no fee for the service, we are funded by the generosity of Queenslanders.   Who can access the Cancer Counselling Service? The Cancer Counselling Service is available to anyone who is distressed by cancer, including family and friends. We offer individual and couple counselling, as well as the opportunity to participate in our group programs.   How do I request a referral? Call Cancer Council 13 11 20 to speak to one of the team who can refer you to the Cancer Counselling Service. You can call Cancer Council 13 11 20 between 9am and 5pm Monday to Friday (excluding public holidays).   How do I make an appointment? Upon receiving your referral, our Cancer Counselling Team will contact you within two business days to make an appointment.   Appointments are available Monday to Friday during business hours, with limited after-hours appointments available by arrangement.   https://cancerqld.org.au/get-support/cancer-emotional-support/cancer-counselling-service/   Or Call the Cancer Council on ph: 13 11 20 in general, to discuss your current circumstance to see what other advice or services they could offer?   But if all else fails and he refuses to seek any form of assistance and the abuse continues against you and your children. Then maybe, just maybe you might have to consider temporarily  seeking an alternative living space. But I highly doubt it will  come to this. ... View more

Sounds like good steps in the right direction for both you and your friend. ... View more

It's okay, we're here if you wish to talk further or just want someone to listen. We'll gladly/want to do both. Please let us know, how everything goes???  ... View more

Hi,   I'm sorry to hear about your friend, all you need to do is be there for her and support her. This is achieved by listening, simply being there and making them smile when you can. Did she say what stage by any chance? ... View more

Evening,   I'm sorry to hear about the delay, i see that they're wanting to do chemotherapy but desire to wait after the dip has ceased. Have the doctors considered radiotherapy or spoken to you about other treatments? Radiotherapy could always be an option while you wait. They could target the newly discovered liver?   Don't forget there's no harm in seeking another opinion as well. Always helped us despite the stages and condition but mind you some doctors don't like this. We had to fight and push back every step, no regrets. Those steps always helped us cover ground. ... View more

Hello,   Unfortunately that is common with cancer that attaches itself to the bowels. If a solid meal tends to blind then an soft and liquid one, does sound like the better option. But you should always check with your acting doctor to advise. Maybe a better catchment system such as a heavy duty adult nappy with an additional slip could help absorb the extra leakeage? Plus a barrier spray to protect the skin from irritation for overnight.   If sleepless nights continue then try seeking some  relaxation medication such as ativan, to assist for a short period of time?   ... View more