Hello, What you and your family are currently going through, must be difficult to say the least (I know the word 'difficult' isn't enough to even begin to describe it). Your husband seems to need to seek professional help and services as soon as possible, especially if his understandable angry is casuing great distress to others in the family. I know this may sound silly but is there any way that a conversation can be held with him, to discuss the emotional impact that is being caused? If not or your unsure how to approach this, may I recommend the following support sites from the Cancer Council? Cancer Connect: A Connect volunteer can listen with understanding and share their experiences and ways of coping. They can provide practical information, emotional support and hope. Many people newly diagnosed with cancer find this one-to-one support very beneficial. For more information on Cancer Connect call Cancer Council 13 11 20. https://www.cancer.org.au/about-cancer/patient-support/cancer-connect.html Cancer Counselling Services: What is the Cancer Counselling Service? The Cancer Counselling Service is Queensland’s leading cancer specific counselling service. This service is staffed by nurse counsellors and registered psychologists, all with training and experience in helping people affected by cancer. Counselling can assist you at any stage of your journey, from diagnosis through to living with or having survived cancer. You can also benefit from this support if you are grieving. What services are available? Because we realise people’s support needs vary, we provide counselling within a stepped model of care. This means, where possible, we start with guided self-help delivered by our nurse counsellors. Our service is provided via Telephone and Skype, with face-to-face appointments available in some locations. Nurse counsellor service Our nurse counsellors provide guided self-help, in the form of a single telephone session and a follow up contact. They offer guidance and tips on coping with the effects of cancer or adjusting to life with or after cancer. They also provide support with making decisions related to treatment and addressing treatment concerns. Where guided self-help does not address your concerns, we will link you in to our psychology service. Psychology service Those experiencing high levels of distress will bypass guided self-help and be linked into our psychology service. Our psychologists provide more intensive support in the form of therapy which involves a number of one-on-one counselling sessions. Group programs and Workshops Group programs are conducted over the telephone as well as face-to-face in Brisbane and selected regional offices. These programs will enable you to learn new skills in assisting you to cope with cancer and its related challenges. Our workshops, focusing on specific coping skills, such as relaxation and mindfulness, are usually delivered face-to-face in locations around the state. What support does the Cancer Counselling Service provide? We can assist with a range of cancer concerns including: Adjusting to life with cancer Stress and difficulty coping Depression Anxiety Sleep difficulties Loss Family or relationship problems Treatment side-effects Sexual problems Uncertainty about the future Survivorship Fear of recurrence Therapy related to end of life Bereavement support Are there fees for the service? There is no fee for the service, we are funded by the generosity of Queenslanders. Who can access the Cancer Counselling Service? The Cancer Counselling Service is available to anyone who is distressed by cancer, including family and friends. We offer individual and couple counselling, as well as the opportunity to participate in our group programs. How do I request a referral? Call Cancer Council 13 11 20 to speak to one of the team who can refer you to the Cancer Counselling Service. You can call Cancer Council 13 11 20 between 9am and 5pm Monday to Friday (excluding public holidays). How do I make an appointment? Upon receiving your referral, our Cancer Counselling Team will contact you within two business days to make an appointment. Appointments are available Monday to Friday during business hours, with limited after-hours appointments available by arrangement. https://cancerqld.org.au/get-support/cancer-emotional-support/cancer-counselling-service/ Or Call the Cancer Council on ph: 13 11 20 in general, to discuss your current circumstance to see what other advice or services they could offer? But if all else fails and he refuses to seek any form of assistance and the abuse continues against you and your children. Then maybe, just maybe you might have to consider temporarily seeking an alternative living space. But I highly doubt it will come to this.
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