Evening,   People have said that to you?? Well that's rather silly and unsettling honestly. I'm sure that they mean well and are trying to be supportive in their own unique way but i don't think that they quite understand.   Realistically there are no accurate time limits, only simply opinions and guesses.   A person can only take things as they come and often only one day at a time. You need to surround yourself with loving families or friends and remember to communicate your feelings with them. Your only human afterall and need assistance through this time as well.   We are here for you, whenever you need too! ... View more

Hi,   Frustration and the feeling of helpness can often result in indirect anger, whether you are angry at yourself or others around you. Communication is always the key, did you thoughtful express your feelings to your family or even friends? You shouldn't leave things to bottle up, they can manifest themsleves into other parts of our lives. Besides they are your family, they love you - don't be afraid to tactful express your feelings or worries.    And from there, prehares additional suggestions and ideas can be offered about lifestyle and etc.   However if you feel that maybe your not quite ready and need additional advice/support, you could always try contacting the cancer council: Ph: 13 11 20 for support services or check at what they have to offer online instead?   Support: https://cancerqld.org.au/get-support/cancer-emotional-support/cancer-counselling-service/   ... View more

I experienced something similar with my mother as well. She had a little bit of cancer in her brain and towards the end, she wasnt the same person. The necessary pain killers were blunting her as a person.    You can anticipate for something and even get prepared for it but you are never quite ready for it. Everything feels between suspended and surreal. I'm sorry for your current situation. My heart goes with you. ... View more

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Hi Rmac,   That situation sounds very familiar: Treatment, hope, something occurs, treatment, more hope and something additional occurs. While your still trying to handle the original issue. It's a pattern that many have experienced before but of course its different for everyone and never a consist.   It's okay and normal to feel overwhelmed and lonely in tense times like these. But remember that you are never alone, you have family/friends, the loving/supportive members on here and for additonal help on the cancer council to talk too.   Your never alone - i have supplied some additional information, just in case you are ever interested.   Contact the cancer council: Ph: 13 11 20 for additional information or help.   Support: https://cancerqld.org.au/get-support/cancer-emotional-support/cancer-counselling-service/   Self help line: 1300MHCALL (1300 64 22 55) - Mental Health Services Access.  ... View more

You do whatever you feel is necessary to take it day by day. You will make it through, time flows ever forward. In the meanwhile if you ever feel like talking, we are here for when ever you need. ... View more

Hello,   Chemo can be quite difficult on the body but everyone reacts differently. It depends on the dosage, type and length of the treatment as well. Maybe your treating doctor can recommend some advice to help assist with the symptoms? The next treatment could change in reaction level too.    You could try different treatment options but ultimately that's completely up to you. Have a discussion with your doctor to see, where he/she thinks would recommend. ... View more

Hi Joy, I'm sorry to hear that your going through a temporary tense moment in your life. It's really great to see that you have support! You know you could call the cancer council on ph: 13 11 20, they offer all kinds of services and support. Maybe they can offer some advice on what available financial services are out there for you? Maybe even visiting centrelink would be an worthwhile consideration. You don't need to be strong all the time, no one is capable of that. It's okay to cry and it's okay to breakdown too, its how we release our frustrations or feelings of helpless throughout our daily lives. Remember that you are resilient and resilient people may stumble or even fall but they always eventually get back up. Your not alone and many many others on here are very familiar with your story as it's theirs too. ... View more

I find that arguments during stressful times are mostly simply temporarily. Fear of anything creates angry, feeling of helplessness creates frustration. It's an natural reaction and occurrence in us all. What people say and what people meant to say, are never quite the same thing unfortunately.   Give it time, be there for him and he will eventually come around or you could apologize, just to smooth things over - if you think that will help? You don't need to be sorry for the words, you could just be sorry for the resulting situation. ... View more

Hello Hello!   Your daughter is responding well to the treatment? That's brilliant news!   Your daughter is so very lucky to have such an loving and devoted mother. Your constant worrying is perfectly normal and expected but you don't need to be strong for her, you just need to be there for her. Just try to take one day at an time and limit yourself away, from "what if's?" especially if they do not apply to her situation. The thing about "what ifs" is that they usually never happen.   She could very well still have her own children, she could adopt an child, she could foster an child, there are many other available options that will be similar.   Let me ensure you that you did NOTHING WRONG when raising her to cause cancer to strike. Cancer is simply unpredictable, it can strike the most healthiest person in the world and without any of their family having it before too.   I'm really happy to see that you have such an supportive family by your side but if it ever becomes a little too much....you can speak to others on here or...   Contact the Cancer Council on ph: 13 11 20 - they offer many services and including emotional support as well. All you need to do is simply ask or check out their site! https://www.cancer.org.au/about-cancer/patient-support/   or   (Just in case for emotional support - https://cancerqld.org.au/get-support/cancer-emotional-support/cancer-counselling-service/ ).   ... View more