January 2013
Hi
Is he taking dexamethasone? I found aggression was an issue for me when I took dex (it is a steroid). I asked to be taken off it for later courses of chemo and I was not so aggressive.
Also, he is likely to be pretty angry about his condition. It is not something that can be processed easily, especially with the quick onset/recurrence he is experiencing. That's a lot more complicated than changing medication.
But check out the steroid situation. I know dex has a reputation for being a bugger of a drug.
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December 2012
Hi there BeXsie.
It sounds pretty rough at the moment. What a lot going on!
I have two conditions as well. I remind myself that I can't pretend to have a normal life. I do need to make allowances. When I do that I can live a good life.
Yes, it does mean lots of people won't understand. I am just not gong to be close to those people. There are important people whom i can talk to. Not everyone. One or two is all I need.
Here is a good place to just say things like you did.
H
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December 2012
Maybe it's okay to talk to yourself? Call it prayer and see what happens. Why would you do anything other than say what it's like?
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November 2012
Counselling is a great idea, even for a norse goddess. I have not been in your position but have read so much about the value of good counselling where grief is concerned. I think you already know the answer. Talk to someone face to face! They are skilled at being with you as you grieve. It will make a difference, I am sure.
And it would not be normal if you felt any different. Go with it. It is real.
H
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November 2012
That's true, isn't it. They are both euphemisms designed to cloud reality.
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November 2012
That's a really perceptive interpretation of your dream. Well done for writing it down, too. It will be interesting to see if you have the same dream again. I've had a dream about missing a plane four times! And I had written it down the first three times.
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November 2012
Can someone please explain this to me:
"When he was advised in June that the cancer was incurable, Courtenay discontinued further treatment and dedicated his last book to his doctor, Koroush Haghighi." (News.com.au)
Well, that is pretty clear. So far so good. This well known person decided to cease treatment. But then:
"Author Bryce Courtenay loses cancer battle, aged 79" (The Age)
If he has decided to refuse further treatment why are people saying he has lost something?
I am so sick of the crap about battling cancer. It is really insulting. I want it on the record here that although I have not read one of his books I salute Bryce Courtenay for his acceptance of his life ending the way it did. He was not losing a battle in any sense of the word. He was ending life with a lot of dignity, clearly at peace. Well done, Bryce Courtenay.
It get right up my nose that the mindless media machine can only deal with celebrity cancer deaths using the battle metaphor, even when it flies in the face of the facts.
He chose to stop treatment. He won that battle. He didn't lose it.
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October 2012
I feel supported when you just say how it is. You have done that. I can't see "being slack" as applying. I know what you mean about being a ragdoll. I feel something similar during the chemo regime and I just go with it as a scientific thing that will hopefully give a good result. I don't confuse it with my identity which is nothing to do with the health system and its routines.
It's not going to be a ragdoll getting married. She's a whole person. Let them stick needles in the ragdoll. So what. That's not you.
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