Chris - Hi I am thinking of you. Look at the situation this way - you have got your wish for your Dad to be with you. Now for the other concerns : as carolyn2 said when he does pass he will always be with you in spirit and the one and only thing that got me through Dad's last days was the fact he knew I loved him and I knew he loved me.
Then I went down in a screaming heap. But I had to remember that he was no longer in pain and at that stage, as you will find, knowing the suffering of someone you love so deeply is over and they are finally at peace does bring some relief. Yes we who are left behind feel as though we can't go on without them - it is now our time to suffer(even though we have already been)but we still must remember that the person we loved so much, in this case our Fathers- are now FREE.
The self destructive path I took after Dad died - I knew Dad would be suffering to see me like this - so I sought help. Admittedly it was not until 5 years later that I really started to accept the fact that he was gone and I was able to really get on with my life and do things - volunteer work with people suffering substance abuse, especially alcoholism. Through this I became who I thought my Dad would be proud of and I'm sure that whatever grief I had caused him in life and death was hopefully now rectified and he could finally rest in peace knowing that I too was experiencing a peace of sorts.
Sorry Chris this was about you but as you probably know by now when I am passionate about something I just go on and on and on.
But in all that I hope you found something to hang on to. Take care xxooxx
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