8 weeks have passed since my partner passed away from brain cancer and I can totally understand when you say it seems to have gotten harder. Just when you think you are managing a 'tad' better, such as driving in the car alone with minimal tears and bang your hit by a 5 metre wave and your back at the drawing board of lost and so sad. I have been there and thought I was pulling it together and right now I am down and lost again. I don't understand how it gets easier. So I am sorry I do not have any words that can help you process and cope, I think we are all individual and support from family and friends is our best avenue. If you or anyone else has any advice on how to cope please share. What has worked for you? What hasn't worked? Keep strong, take pleasure in the little things, live each day to the fullest and smile and laugh at the many good memories 🙂 ... View more

Hi, my partner too has pancreatic cancer with secondary to lung. He was diagnosed in Oct 2011, had a whipples immediately after diagnosis, then in that same year Dec he started chemo - Gemcitabene for six months which basically did not do anything. His cancer markers increased and in 2012 Oct, he was told its secondary to lungs. In Feb this year, he decided to try Folfirimox 4 treatments once a fortnight over 8 weeks. This is his third treatment and he has been told that the cancer markers are dropping, but that's all we know. He has the most boring non inspiring oncologist which does not help. I don't know where your husband is regarding stages or treatments, but they need a good oncologist one who will be there to share every single moment as being a partner often does not suffice for cancer sufferers. I have found this out. It is the most difficult trying time for both and I wish you all the best. Lost in another world Karen ... View more