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I know how you feel Rachel and I agree with all the comments above. Silly, I love what you said about feeling like people think you are harping on about cancer and/or looking for sympathy. That is exactly how I feel. Most days I like it when people don't mention cancer and treat as if I am the same normal person I was before and somedays it bugs me.

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Today I drove past the park where I was the evening before I found out I had cancer. It really bugged me. I am not sure why as I have driven past that park plenty of other times since. Usually I drive by and don't even notice but today it made me remember. I was thinking just the other day that my cancer is now something that is in the past. That I was finished with it. So, it annoyed me that it can still come back to bite me when I'm not expecting it. I had a cold last week, which was the first time I had been sick since I had cancer. I think that stirred up some sort of emotional response. I stayed home in bed for 2 days whereas in the past I would have gone to work anyway. I'm trying to think of that as a good thing but I'm a bit confused about it all.

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Hi Emma Welcome to the site! I have had a lot of good support here. Did they think it was a complete coincidence the lump came after your fall, or was it somehow related? I found all the nurses who gave me chemo very friendly and kind as well. I think they are all really great and important to making the experience manageable. I hope you are having a good break from chemo. Good luck for the next batch. Allicat

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That's great news that you're N.E.D. Ben. I have had many similar thoughts about being a survivor. It is an interesting thing to try to define. I had two doctors tell me "You're cured" but both of them said it with a tone that suggested they should have done air-quotes around "cured". But, I am also N.E.D, with only 20% recurrence rate so I am happy with that.

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Hi Jules, I have a cat-proof fence to keep my cat in the yard as she is not allowed in the bushland behind. I get some possums walking around the top of the fence but none have come into the yard so far, which is lucky as I don't think they'd be able to get out once they got in. Sometimes I hear kookaburras which is nice. I've never had chooks although my family did long ago - before I was born. I like the idea of chooks. Hope you had a good nap. This year I have been going to work all day every day. Before that I hadn't worked a full week for 15 months. I am getting used it and it is quite good having a proper routine.

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Congratulations Jules, a full day at work is an achievement to be proud of. I hope it didn't make you too tired. Congratulations also on the new house! It sounds like it will be really nice. The bush is so friendly and comforting. I have a unit in the suburbs but it backs onto a small bushland so it has a really pretty tree-filled view.

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Hi Dancing Julie I have been seeing a counsellor since last February. She has been very helpful. I think the more important thing is just having somewhere I can talk rather than getting actual advice. Sometimes she talks about her theories on whatever and I wish she would be quiet so I could talk. I practically never cry when I'm by myself but I have cried buckets while talking to the counsellor. I think that is a good healthy thing. The last few months I have not needed to cry and I am spreading the appointments further apart. If you don't feel like your therapist is helping then you should probably try someone else. There are therapists who specialise in cancer patients - maybe you should try to find one of them.

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Hi Linda, That sounds really difficult and annoying. I had relatively mild side effects from chemo. Is the group both talking and exercising? I hope it will be helpful for you. I have been going to a counsellor for nearly a year and talking to her has helped a lot. I also do a lot of exercise which definitely helped me not go insane while I was having chemo. I always feel better after exercising. Best Wishes

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Well done Silly! Not gutsing is a good tip! Dancing sounds a fun way to get some exercise. I have been keeping my food diary for a couple of weeks now. I think it helps me to eat when I get hungry rather than when I get bored. I have lost about 0.5kg so far. You know how your weight fluctuates throughout the monthly cycle, does that still happen if you are on drugs that stop your periods?

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Hi Bella Welcome to the site! I also had breast cancer but I was lucky and it had not spread. As far as we can tell I am now cancer-free. What treatment are you having? For comparing notes specifically about breast cancer I suggest the BCNA website: www.bcna.org.au - I found it confusing to navigate at first but worthwhile. Here is a good site where I like to talk about the whole emotional turmoil thing but that one is specifically about breast cancer which could be helpful. Best Wishes

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