November 2011
There are no right things to say. The best advice I can give you is be there and just listen. No matter what she says just listen don't tell her not to say things that she feels she needs to get off her chest. She will have stages where she thinks negative and talk about her feels of if setjing goes wrong iit is only natural. She will need to sometimes say these things out loud. It does not mean she is giving up or doesn't believe she can't beat it. I am 29 and have been fighting breast cancer for a year now. The hardest thing I have found is the thought I won't be there for my children, I can not shine the thought of not being able to of had them at all. My thoughts and preys ate with your friend. The nest advice I can give you is sometimes just hold your friend, hug her she may tell you to go away or not to be silly bit you will find that if you no and just hold her for a while sometimes like 1/2 hour she will break and that is good for her and she will thank you at the end of her journey for being there even when she thought she didn't need it. Stay in her life and keep in contact with her reguraly don't be scare to be around her. I am available anytime If you or your friend need support
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May 2011
Hi it's Patricia I met you on Saturday at the relay for life. I also met another woman Emily who is 31 and has breast cancer. She filled out a form and is also willing to help. Nick has her form. My heart goes out to the mother on the blogs with an 18 year old daughter who has cancer. I just want to help her daughter so much.
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May 2011
I am so sorry that your family is going through this. I am 28 and fighting breast cancer. It is very hard for young people to be fighting this horrible disease. I know I am 10 years older than your daughter but if there is any way I can help just let me know. I live in sydney. At such a young age all we want is our mums because you are the ones that make us feel safe. We feel that we are alone and our friends and family don't understand what we are going through so we push them away also it scares us of what we could lose. We don't understand why us and we feel that their is no one who truly understands because everyone that is involved in support for cancer are so much older than us. I have met a two more young people which are also fighting in their early twenties and I am sure they will help to if they can. I can not understand what you are going through as a mum that has a daughter so sick but all I can say is just be her mum. Hold her and even if she pushes away just keep her tight it is what she needs. If I can help in any way let me know. There is support out there and now you need it. My preyers are with your daughter and family.
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April 2011
I was diagnosed with breast cancer September last year. I have been so strong for everyone around me even down to hiding side affects of chemo so they would not worry. BUT now I have had enough and I feel for the first time I dont want to be strong and I need to break. I have never asked why but now I do. Why am I the only one in our family history to get cancer, why out of everyone I grew up with does it have to be me, why is there a chance that I am the one that could become just a smell or memory for my children. My husband lost his mum to breast cancer, so I have felt that I can not show me being weak and then 6 weeks ago his dad was diagnosed with brain, liver and lung cancer and after four weeks he was gone. My husband has said heavy heartedly that he can not be my rock with everything that is going on but who is if he is not. Everyone around me has no idea of what goes through my head and how scared and tired of it all I am. I have hidden it for so long that now I dont know how to tell or show them.
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