Hi Kymmaree, I lost my mum when I was a 23 to breast cancer (1994), and struggled for many dark years without professional emotional support, I began to drink to cope with the pain, which just numbed the inevitable. Without any parents to guide me, I finally accepted that I needed grief counselling, some 8 years later to help me untangle the frozen grief and loss I was encapsulated within. I found an amazing qualified counsellor to talk to, hear all my pain, listen fully and hold the emotional space so I could break down and release my emotional suffering. This was my healing and turning point toward acceptance of her death without feeling guilty that I was abandoning her by wanting to stop hurting because she died. Kate. ... View more