Hi there, my wonderful partner was diagnosed with a melanoma cancer in Feb this year. It was located under his left arm with no primary. We have been through 4 major operations since then and he is having  radiation and chemo. I cant imagine what its like to go through this having a family to think of also. I dont know if I can help or not but my thoughts went to you when I read your post.  We are both only 31. I do find reading this website helps even just to realise that so many . many people are affected by this creul illness. ... View more

Hi Christine, its the middle of the night and i just cant sleep-been this way since we found out on 29/02/08 im so gald its a leap year and that date only comes every 4 years - but your message just made my mind relax slightly. I am being very supportive, rob is madly researching and doing well, trying always to focus on being positive. I am off work, and we are spending everyday together - time off i had been longing so badly , I work up to 70 hours week . Tomorrow he goes for the first operation, removing lymph nodes and multiple toumours, he wil be there 3 weeks. Thank you for your kind words of encouragement  you helped me feel better, you stay positive too take care . Regards Tara howells    ... View more

We are also just starting our journey, I feel the same way about so many things you wrote - I also dont know what to expect as my role as a carer. My wonderful, wonderful partner and I had the perfect life, we were just so happy with the balance of us, work and friends/family we had created to live in. The doctor at the stage are really blunt about how very real it is that Robs time has been cut short no matter what treatment he has. I still am in the nightmare of not thinking its true. Rob is focusing on saving his life by diet. Its become a strict routine of a new diet in our house. He is classed stage 3 melanoma. I will do anything it takes to make him feel better. ... View more

Hi Mikey, My partner has metastic melanoma. I am having trouble understanding it, reading about it is very overwhelming I feel very scared of how I will cope as this progresses. I am very stressed on how to pay mortgage, bills etc.....  Howells ... View more