I'm so sorry Wallyo. I can understand your mum wishing to stop chemo. I'm at that stage where I don't know if chemo is the best thing for my dad. He wants to do whatever he can to stay with us for longer but then he doesn't want to be in pain. The chemo is slowing down the lung cancer but the bone mets continue to grow. He has 8 mets and the lower back, hip is the one causing so much pain. We found radiation worked in the beginning but its not working now and the morphine isn't doing so well either. He is also starting to get moody but its understandable considering what they are going through. It is definitely hard to see your parents go through this and no one prepares you for it. It's also hard not knowing what's going to happen or how long they will be here for. Somedays you feel so alone even though your friends are their for you. It's such a destructive disease. I try to talk about normal everyday things with my dad so were not talking about cancer all the time and how he is doing. Try and keep your mum positive and do as much as you can while she's still mobile. My dad is in bed most days and you begin to miss the little things that they could do. Also as the pain meds increase you miss being able to talk to them as they just get drowsy and confused. It's really hard and like you I just don't know what to expect.
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Hi miss Molly,
Sounds like yr doing a great job with yr mum. You are so young to be going through this! I am going through this myself, my mum has just been diagnosed in January with stage IV lung cancer with secondary to the bones. I am also caring for my mum, she has moved in with us. I know how u feel about not knowing what is the right thing to do all the time. It is hard. Have you got your own support network, people you can talk to if you need to? It is really hard also because you don't know what to expect, what's coming next. Hang in there, take each day one day at a time and enjoy the days where your mum is feeling ok.
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