Thank you Gail and Chris for your responses; and for your thoughts Gail. I have shown compassion, patience, love, understanding and continuous support . Not once have I lashed back . I have not heard back from him since I told him I would no longer phone or email as I had upset him, with my apologies around this. I did not feel I should apologize but I had hoped he would see how hurtful he is with this behaviour to me or others and give it some thought and perhaps eventually come back with an email or phone call but he has not. This of course has made me feel even sadder. All I can do now is call the hospital and have updates on how he is. I have seen so much suffering in the Cancer Lodge it has opened up a entirely new awareness for me . This year I seem to be surrounded by family, friends and yes, recently, animals, who are in the throes of this terrible illness.. my heart and prayers go out to everyone battling this . my love to you all, Lynette from Quail Cottage in Qualicum Beach, BC. Canada. ... View more

thank you, yes I would love to talk about this as I have been left with feelings of huge despondency and guilt -my brother is in hospital this week having the bone marrow cell transplant. He has wonderful friends over there and of course his caring brother who is the donor. We don't know how this is going to go. It has been a terrible journey up to now for him and he is not in the best of strength or spirits but we have managed to keep lines open re communication and love. There is a lot of family stuff going on and I feel that the travelling brother may have said something to him re a family matter (ie. the dec. to take my mother back to Comox as there was so much anger in the family and provide private care instead- which also created a lot of anger towards me. My brother and I have been fine up to this time with me visiting him a few weeks ago and talking via phone and email. He has been in good spirits up until now when he lashed out at me on the phone this week- I have no idea if this is a co incidence with my other brother arriving and possibly discussing family matters with him which he should not have based on my brother's severe illness, or whether or not he just is lashing out at the one he has always done this to- ME! ... View more

Hi miss Molly, Sounds like yr doing a great job with yr mum. You are so young to be going through this! I am going through this myself, my mum has just been diagnosed in January with stage IV lung cancer with secondary to the bones. I am also caring for my mum, she has moved in with us. I know how u feel about not knowing what is the right thing to do all the time. It is hard. Have you got your own support network, people you can talk to if you need to? It is really hard also because you don't know what to expect, what's coming next. Hang in there, take each day one day at a time and enjoy the days where your mum is feeling ok. ... View more