Hello, I am a newbie to this forum. I am so glad to have found everyone here. I hope I can be as much help to others as you might be for me. Two months ago my dad was diagnosed with esophageus cancer which has spread to his liver and stomach and possibly bowel. He has always been extremely fit and healthy as he spent most of his life training personal trainers! Shock was beyond what I felt for him. Long story shortened - He went to the doctor for bloating and they found his liver had increased in size by 7cm and then they found the primary esophageus caner and then all the secondaries. My dad had an appointment with his oncologist last Tuesday to see how his two months of high dose chemotherapy was going. They had done scans and bloods and we were thinking positive! We were horribly shocked that his team of doctors weren’t so positive.. They said that the liver is struggling so badly that he only has a couple of weeks left... His chemotherapy treatment had no affect on his type of cancer and it continued to grow throughout treatment. I feel like everything is going to change and I can’t imagine my life without my Dad, especially for my mum and my younger brother. I am usually so strong, but, I feel like a bit of a burden on my friends and partner with my depressed state at the moment. People tell me to leave nothing unsaid. I don’t know what to say. I tell him I love him every day. I am in shock and feel devastated. ... View more

My dad is 63 and two months ago was diagnosed with esophagus cancer. It was such a shock! He is so fit, young and so active. The cancer had already had spread to his liver and his stomach by the time we found out anything. He went to the doctor for bloating in his stomach of all things and that is when they found his liver has grown 7cm. Then they found the esophagus cancer as the primary cancer. He has had two months of very serious doses of chemotherapy (iv drip for 8 hours a time and two daily doses of chemotherapy tablets). Last week we were told that the cancer in his liver is spreading so quickly, shutting it down and is such a rare cancer that he only has a few weeks to live. His chemotherapy treatment had no affect on his type of cancer and it continued to grow throughout treatment. I am 29 as of last week and trying to be very strong for my younger brother (24) and my mum (56). My mum is just beside herself and is so young to loose her husband and my brother has no other older male influence in his life and is struggling hard with being aggressive with all of this. I can't imagine my life without my Dad. I don't know where to start, what to do, what to say or how to feel. I am lucky I have a very supportive boyfriend and we have been together for a very long time. Being a daddy's girl, it pains me that he won't be there at our wedding to walk me down the aisle, to meet my kids one day and to be a part of our lives. I feel selfish for saying those things, but, it hurts my heart. I feel like a very lost soul at the moment and I would really love some support and direction. Best wishes to all who needs them and thank you for your time. ... View more