Things have gone wrong since I wrote my first comment. My husband's join in the bowel had come loose and there was a leak causing a Sepsis shock. They had to operate fairly swiftly without a scan to undo the first surgery and clean everything out. This has left him with another Stoma on the other side which will now be permanent. He is stable but frightening to see him in Intensive Care and has been sedated since yesterday. Really hoping he will be ok! Anyone been through anything like this? Very concerned T ... View more

Hello Casper I'm new here too and a little uncertain if it will help me but it's worth a try. My husband has rectal cancer and has tried to keep working throughout treatment although just stopped for surgery last few days. It has helped him to feel normal and keep his mind focused on other things which has been good. His work have been very helpful in keeping the communication channels open without infringing on his privacy and it has helped him to feel supported in this way. We have 2 young school aged children and I'm constantly worried about how they are doing with all the stress surrounding them. The surgery has gone well and my husband was in really good spirits but I'm really worried now about What the pathology report will show and his continuous hiccups he's had for the last 2 days. Hoping there isn't anything wrong that hasn't been picked up. The fear has overcome me once again, right when I want to be strong for my family. I am also hoping to find people that I can relate to with similar situation and experiences. Even though I am a partner of someone with Cancer I was drawn to your post because I'm also in Adelaide and my boys are similar ages. I also have had days where the tears have kept flowing! Wishing you and your family well. T ... View more