When I was informed of my son's illness, I rushed to his side and wanted to look after him and care for him. I was very upset when he turned around and complained that I could not just barge in and take over. He is 40, married with 4 children. Of course I melted in the background instantly and looked after the children instead. Now he has asked me to go back home with my husband as he wants to spend some time with his wife and kids alone. He called me today to say that he is in hospital with fluid in his lungs and there maybe other complications in his lungs even after they drained 3.5 ltrs of fluid from the surrounding area. I am not sleeping very much especially when I know that he is unwell. He and his family have now moved in to his in law's place. I wanted so much to be part of the caring team, not so much for him but caring for the children who are all at school - 2 in primary and one in high school and the oldest in an apprenticeship. I hope and pray that I will be asked to go back to look after him some times in the future. I am not sure if it is too late for him to undergo chemotherapy, but if he does, I hope that he will ask me to go and help look after him. It has been one week since we parted company. How long should I hold on for? Will I be considered an interfering mother if I just turn up on their doorstep? I am sick with worry and my biggest worry is that he will die alone. What should I do? ... View more