Hiya Carlie So sorry to read about your dad. He most likely is just trying to get his head around his diagnosis and I hope that he can come out the other end and start to feel a bit better. Never give up hope. 25 years ago I was given the possibility of a month to live with amelanotic melanoma. NOt trying to offer false hope but not everyone dies from cancer. I am now heading towards 5 years clearance from my 2nd diagnosis with cancer. The cancer council offers a help line and often groups that people can attend. Even if your dad wont go it may be beneficial for yourself and your mum. Take care Julie ... View more

Hi Carlie sorry to hear your are all going through such a horrendous time, its such a cruel world sometimes I think its your dads way of having some sort of control surrounding his illness, I think he is just preparing himself for one of the ways it could go, I don't think think he is necessarily assuming that the worse will happen just seeing it as a possibility and wants to cover all basis maybe... try to see it as his way of coping, it sounds like its his personality traits that lead him this way, just keep supporting him and each other as best you can,.... most times there seems to be the positive people, the frightened scared negative people in each unit, maybe that's naturally what happens so the person gets something from each personality and for me there are times when one or more are needed from time to time... Take care my friend I wish u all well ... View more