I have cancer and a partner who is really worried too, as much as its normal your worry is noticed and worries your partner which is not good for anyone
I have told my partner off for being upset or overly anxious because I don't want our last whatever time to be like that
if you can put on a brave face, fake it, suggest stuff to do, make plans (obviously short term, daily , weekly), tell them to do stuff like normal because like I tell my partner I am not incapacitated I can still make a coffee/bed/feed the dog and other stuff I have always been able to do nothing has changed today
If they cant physically do it then maybe ask someone if they can come around and offer to do it (lawns etc) or hire Jims mowing
Its more important you spend quality time with your partner not fret about what may happen as much as it really is a shitty deal and would be easy to dwell on that
If you really love him then love him don't stress him out with your anxiety , if you find that hard find some counselling to give you tips on how to deal with what you are both going through
I have made my partner organise counselling and hopefully that will help them deal with the current situation
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I had colon cancer that went to my liver and was told last week I wont last more than 12mths
Trust me you aren't the only angry one lol, I am having a shit day today but to your point I think the anger is normal the questioning etc
I had to tell my parents yesterday and I made a point of how I still wanted to be treated
business as usual til it is no more, don't treat me any different I can still do stuff don't run around after me don't ask me 30 times a day if I am ok, if I wake up in the middle of the night its to piss its normal
I can only imagine how hard it is for our partners but over compensating only annoys me (I can only assume your partner may be feeling similar)
and if anyone starts to tell cancer stories glare at them til they hit the ground in excrutiating pain, not cool regardless of the outcome
I just hope my loved ones , the ones that matter, can put on a brave face for me because I don't want to spend what time may be left sad or watching them upset.
As much as it sucks (to put it mildly) if it is to happen we now have a chance a lot of people don't to really live like we all should be anyway to the full and really be kind to each other not babying but loving and kind so when the time comes we know we have done all we can with our lives.
the shit will still flow, the emotions will come, the fear, the resentment, the anger, the questioning and sadness but theres stuff all we can do but get on with it we are after still alive today.
I have yet to cry this time but having gone through the colon cancer and treatments for a few months I had my melt downs then so have not been so affected this time as stupid as that may sound (considering now I am apparently dying???)
sorry if that was a too much of a rant but I think I have been having the same kind of day
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So this week found out I will be having chemotherapy and radiotherapy (colon cancer) and no op at this stage which delights me to no end (seriously), after just going through a triple bypass the worse thing I could think of was being back in hospital.
I know I am not even probably being realistic about how my upcoming treatments may be but not being told I have no chance or need an op are just fantastic.
I just can't wait for it to be done and the pain to be gone and stop the pain killers and just get the heck back on with life.
My poor friend I was the ultimate horrible nasty patient after the bypass now he gets to deal with me again I hope I can not be such a ass through this.
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Hi , firstly my profile says bowel cancer it's actually colon cancer if that makes any difference.
So 2015 the year I fell apart, I will get a t-shirt with that on it, I had some backside pain and went to my GP who examined and sent me to the QEH for more examinations.
They didn't feel the same thing so it was suggested I get a colonoscopy this as on a Friday on the Saturday night I had a heart attack and on November 3rd had a triple bypass.
23rd December I had the colonoscopy and on 30th found out it was cancer.
I have since had CT and MRI scans and saw the oncologist and radiologist who both agree based on the type of cancer that chemo/radio therapy could be successful which was a relief as I had (probably typical?) thoughts that it was game over.
So in next weekish that all begins
anyways thank the gods for PlayStation cause it seems again I will be spending plenty of time getting my Char max levelled and raiding AGAIN lol
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