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This says it all -- my words exactly - Ive also had the feeling lately that this is killing me - so with the support of my friends & suggestions that I need to straight away take charge of myself before I have a breakdown as Iv`e had a flu like sickness for 3 weeks now . So I have got myself some multi vitamins , oranges , some malt in a tin , probiotics as ive just had antibiotics & some fresh fruit - so maybe its mind over matter but feel a bit better already -- Do look after yourselve Bucknchooky x

Cougar68

Hi there - i`m new to this site just signed up a couple of days ago & have posted a couple of blogs which you may or may not have seen . I`m so sorry to read of your struggle & hope things have improved since you first posted . Our cancer story briefly is that my husband has stage 4 lung cancer which is progressing fast the oncologist said the other day . A recent spell in hospital & with bone scans etc has shown the cancer has spread onto one of his ribs .He was diagnosed 16 months ago - & was stage 4 then with a spot on the liver too . Like you its very hard coping with the family & doing all the chores as well . I have very supportive friends but it must be a bit too much for one sister who at the moment doesnt appear to be communicating - but maybe thats her way of coping . with Christmas this time next week I wish you well . lots of lov to you xx

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Thankyou Emily for your supportive reply to my letter . I have had those horrible thoughts on my husbands funeral too & i know that i`m going to have to get a grip on this before I have a complete breakdown - Ive been very sick lately with a flu like virus which my doctor has said is caused by the stress of my husbands illnes . The meeting we had with our oncologist & head nurse yesterday laid it on the line & made it very clear that Mals cancer is rapidly growing - I will now be asking the nurse we spoke to yesterday about any issues that are about to crop up in the near future - the whole team in oncology have been fantastic .I have very supportive friends & most of my family are a great help - I am very blessed to have these people in my life , although I am a bit upset that one of my sisters for some reason is choosing not to communicate with me at the moment. I think I`ve read that some people switch of because they can`t cope with the seriousness of the situation ,so I`m not about to take it too personally . I just need to stop thinking too much about the future . My husband seems to be very calm today after the doctors appointment yesterday - I think its his way of processing all we were told yesterday where I have been a bit of a write off for most of the day . Thanks for reading my letter .

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Hi `ive just signed on & think ive made a mistake in signing -- so hope this goes through . My husband was diagnosed with stage 4 metatastic lung cancer 16 months ago with a spot on his liver, & its been a hellish ride . We were given news yesterday that there is now a new cancer spot on his rib & I woke up this am absolutely beside myself with grief - & feel iIhave no one to talk to right now . I stumbled upon this site a while ago & have read other peoples battle with coping with their loved ones illness & everything Ive read is exactly what Im goinf through & feeling .Mal started off with 4 rounds of chemo which did not respond to theatment, so for a year now has had fortnightly rounds of immunotherapy with the drug Nivolumab. Theres been a small window of time where he did really well but yesterday we were told that the drug is no longer working & his cancer is rapidly growing . That treatment has now stopped & in the New Year he will have a few sessions of radiation & then just checkups . Iv`e watching Mal slowly loose weight & his cough at the moment is pretty bad & he has to go to sleep sitting up right .Ive been told that Im overthinking things which doesnt help & I am having awful thoughts about the future .I am having a lot of trouble coping with every day things & just hope I get through Christmas ok & have some strength for our children . Writing this has made me feel better . I hope you all have a Merry Christmas with your loved ones xxxx

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