Hi Mel,   I'm so sorry for your recent diagnosis...hearing the word 'incurable' is just mind blowing! I'm in the same boat..., although  not bowel cancer. I was diagnosed with endometrial cancer in 2015, went through surgery, chemo, radiation and was in remission... for 18mths.. it returned in November 2016 on my lungs. I was told it was incurable any treatment may prolong my life... for how long??? who knows?   I'm 43, active, working full-time and was about to finish my uni degree.. this was a major spanner in the works.. very similar to your situation.. I feel your pain in relaying the news to your partner, family and friends... you're still digesting it yourself and so the expeirence seems so surreal...and seeing them react was even worse.   On the upside, I am 2 chemo treatments short of completion and positive results in my scan at halfway point.. afterwards, they'll put me on an anti-hormone tablet which will hopefully maintain it from coming back? or coming back sooner?   I'm positive most of the time, but as you know, sometimes some days are just so hard to comprehend. So I try to keep focussed on believing that there will be something that will keep me going.. .there are alot of clinical trials going on and believe that there will be one for you that will give positive results!   I also find meditation helps clear bad thoughts.. I always used to think mediation was wierd, but now love it! Just 5-10mins a day (before bedtime works for me) makes a huge difference. If you want to try it 'smiley minds' is a great app! short but effective sessions.   Keep believing and keep fighting! 🙂     ... View more

Hi braveesthuman,   What a horrible ordeal for you...I feel your pain..my situation was going into surgery knowing that I was having a hysterectomy and leaving one ovary for possible children, however this turned into radical hysterectomy and removal of 30 lympnodes and bowel muscle lining, waking up on morphine to find I now have to have chemo and radiation... As you know, nothing surprises you after being through something like that....   It's amazing how much you learn to deal with things after being through these major hurdles in life...and I fully understand craving a somewhat 'normal life'!  REmember that we're allowed to have bad days... I try and focus on having more good days than bad. I'm glad you have 'chin up' attitude most of the time.. so do I. Keep it up and be determined that you can beat this! ... View more

Hi Nikki,   I feel your pain.. although I don't have kids (cancer took this from me) , leaving my partner, family and friends behind hurts like nothing else.... Even though our minds are like rollercoasters, I constanlty focus on the fact that there will be something at the right time that can change our diagnosis... alot of clinical trials out there... constantly ask, seek, query... there are miracles out there! Also making lasting memories that your kids, family and firends will keep forever.   I"m not sure what your schedule is with the kids, but I found that meditation really helps... clears out the thoughts.. I find 5-10mins a day or even every 2-3 days can make a huge difference. I find doing it before bed helps me fall asleep faster. 'Smiiley minds' is a great app for this!     As hard as it is, don't stop fighting, chin up and be determined to beat this once and for all. ... View more