Hi Mattie, as soon as I read the title of your post I thought "That's the correct answer".  There is no right way to feel about the situations that bring us to this forum, and I think that's why this fourm is so valuable, so we can support each other through our emotional mazes.   Having said that, can I encourage you to stay away from Google for the time being? It only brings stress and fear.  I would only ever google exact diagnoses, never symptoms- try googling 'head ache' and before you know it you'll be convinced you've got a brain tumour.  It might be useful for you to talk to a GP about the situation yourself- they may be able to give you some useful concrete information, or at least some coping strategies until and if your partner decides to act.    In the meantime I wish you many lovely moments each day.  Keep in touch!  Emily ... View more