My dad who I haven’t spoken to in almost 3 years due to a problem that happened in the past has been diagnosed with liver cancer, he is 60 years old. I don’t know what stage it is as he won’t tell me much, I asked the doctors about it however they said that my dad has to give authority to let us know. I am finding it hard to cope as I feel so horrible that this happened to him, I have visited him everyday since and I’m finding it hard to cope. He has aged 10 years since I last saw him and looks yellow, I feel like it’s my fault that this has happened, if only I was there maybe he would of stopped drinking so much and seeked help as he also has hep c and the doctors told him years ago he needs to stop drinking. He said that the doctors said that the hep c is making his liver weak and they can’t do chemotherapy, they want to send him home and give him medication but he doesn’t want that as his father died from liver cancer and saw that he was in so much pain. When I visit my dad he gets emotional and starts crying, I try not to cry as I don’t want to make him feel worse but as soon as I get home I bawl my eyes out and can’t stop crying. I am finding it hard to cope with this as I also have a 4 month baby and still breast feeding. Has anyone been through this, having a baby and coping with a dying parent?
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Cancer Council NSW would like to acknowledge the traditional custodians of the land on which we live and work.We would also like to pay respect to elders past and present and extend that respect to all other Aboriginal people.