Hello HelplessEx, You mentioned that you feel ineligible to feel grief for him given that you're the 'ex', but don't forget that you spent alot of time & love with this man, & just because things didn't work for you, doesn't mean you don't still have some feelings. He was a big part of your life for a long time, so you do have the right to feel fear & grief. I feel for you being in this predicament, you've done everything you can for your daughter, but she is 18 & an adult, albeit a young one, so there is nothing you can make her do, even if it would be the right thing. Talking always helps, but I think she is very scared that she will loose her dad & is looking to place the blame somewhere, & unfortunately, it looks like you're 'it'. Maybe you could get her father to talk to her about what's happening with him, and that even when he does die, (even if not in the near future), she will be alright. Life goes on. At the end of the day there is nothing more you can do. You can't help those that don't want to be helped, but be there for her when she needs you the most, and she will need you - even if she doesn't want to admit it. Please take care of yourself Budgie
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