Hi @Joeyk4,   Sorry to hear of your cousin's cancer   Everyone's cancer and cancer experience is different, it isn't always predictable. And someone's appearance doesn't always reflect what may be happening inside the body, someone may look quite well and be terminal or be in recovery, sadly cancer has no cut and dried way of behaving nor of what one might expect.   The best advice I can give you is to talk to your cousin. If she doesn't wish to talk, which may be the case, be there for her. Quite often with cancer, once the initial treatment is over, many people assume people are ok when that may not be the case. Just be there for her in any aspect you can be, whether that's helping her do something or just even letting her know you care and are there for her when she needs you.   We have a great booklet on just this, "How can I help?". I think it would be worth reading and may give you some ideas about how best you can help your cousin.   And we have another great booklet about Emotions and Cancer, which is a great read for people with cancer as well as families and friends.   Let us know how you get on  ... View more