Thank you so much for taking the time to respond. I can't tell you how much it is appreciated, and I think your feedback is very wise. It is a shit show- you're right. The helplessness of it all. Thank you again, and wishing you and your family all the @CaptainAustrali wrote: Sorry for your situation. I personally think that it's all about time. Time is our currency, how we spend it, what we do with it, is a direct reflection on who we are as human beings. If you wrap it up in expectation, try and think of ways to enrich his last days, have a plan, have a schedule, obsess about doing the right thing, the best thing ---- it might even add stress to an already profoundly stressful situation. But if you make the time, and are as present as possible, I'd be happy with that. If he's unwell, sit by his bed. Choose a book (Lord of the Rings) and read to him. Play card games. I'd also suggest that for a person facing end of life, it's really important to be respectful of what they want, and to not accidentally have any well-meaning social pressure. If they give you a hint that they want to be left alone - as hard as it might be for you personally, give them the space they need ? Sorry, cancer is a shit show, and working out what to do is tricky for all concerned. My advice (being good, bad or indifferent), is to ask him, gently and with love: "Hey, we were looking at taking some time off work, we'd like to be around you, even if it's just to give support to <Wife/Kids/Whatever>. Selfishly, we want as much time as possible with you, but we also want to be respectful of your needs - this is so hard for everybody - can you just tell us what you need most, and we'll try and make it happen ?" strength in your fight.
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Hello, firstly, I just wanted to say thank you for sharing your stories. It can be hard to understand what it might be like to be in your shoes, and although we might not get it from our person who is fighting, your comments help to provide insight. My brother in law has terminal cancer. He and my husband are identical and incredibly close. We've been given limited time (months?) and told to make the most of it. His wife has encouraged us to take time off to spend with him and be around him as much as we can- keep him "here", but since this news just a few days ago, he's been very unwell. I was wondering if, for those of you who have been in his shoes, you could point me in the right direction as to how we can keep him in high spirits. Ideally, we'd hoped to get him out of the house, away, even just spend time with him, but when he's so sick, he just wants to sleep and we cannot blame him for not wanting to be around others. We're at a loss as to know what to do next. Any advice is appreciated. Time is so precious and we feel cheated the quality has been taken from him (and selfishly, us).
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Hello, I'm hoping to find someone who has been through a similar experience with twins. My husband (37) is an identical twin, and his brother has stage 4 metastatic melanoma. We've recently been informed his situation is terminal. Identical twins have an incredible bond, and as you can imagine, this news is unfathomable for my husband. I was wondering if anyone has experienced a similar situation, I thought it might be helpful to speak to a twin who has gone through this, or is going through this. Thank you!
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Cancer Council NSW would like to acknowledge the traditional custodians of the land on which we live and work.We would also like to pay respect to elders past and present and extend that respect to all other Aboriginal people.